Goals for Spring - Do I need Spark People? - Other ramblings

Monday, March 10, 2008

As I was pouring through my seed catalogs planning my gardens and what I hoped for them this year, I realized it is time to access what Donna is going to do and what her plans are for the coming season.

Spring is a time of new beginnings. Old plants that have lain dormant throughout the winter months are starting to put out new shoots, and renew themselves. Old ladies should do that to!

My weight is fine. Do I need Spark People? I was at my goal weight August 1, 2007. There was a little four pound spike over the holidays but I've got three of those back off. I can now walk into my closet and grab something to wear without first closing the door and trying it on to see if it fit without DH seeing me. I feel wonderful. We are remodeling our home and although we are both exhausted at the end of the day, it is a good tired and the next morning, we are ready to go again. Do I need Spark People?

I am into a regular exercise routine. I walk at least a mile a day weather permitting but a lot of my cardio comes from all the construction work we are doing in the house. I have a regular Strength Exercise routine on Monday, Wednesday and Friday that I automatically do without even thinking of it being exercise. Do I need Spark People for that? It is already a habit.

My first thought was, "There are so many things I could be doing if I didn't spend so much time on Sparks." True. Does that mean I don't need Spark People?

YES - I need Spark People. I need the nutrition tracker, I need the exercise tracker, I need the support and friendship of those I've learned to love over the past year on the boards. If sometimes I think Spark People is overwhelming me, I need to realize it is me letting it do the overwhelming - the website can't do that! I have an off button on my computer! LOL!

I am just going to cut on some of the things I do on the boards. I was blaming SP because I was starting to feel overwhelmed with all the new topics created by new members saying "Hi, I'm new" on an Over 50 board where I am a co-leader. I felt obligated to answer every one of these - and that can be an eight hour a day, seven day a week job. It just isn't feasible on dial up to even try! I over whelmed myself and irritated the man I love!

I made an obligation when I joined the Community Team to greet three newbies a week on the Community Introduce Yourself board. That I will continue.

I realized it was not Sparks causing me to feel overwhelmed - it was me making me feel that way. I sat me down and told me, "This group is over 50 years old! You aren't their mother! They are adults - they can find their way! It is mapped out for them!"

We just had a co-leader on our Over 50 . . team suddenly drop from sight without notice. There was a note on her Spark Page that said, "I'm taking some "me" time." Now, the page is no longer public. This concerned me - I was close to doing the same thing! The difference is that I mentioned it in a blog and this same co-leader talked me out of it. I was not given the chance to support her and encourage her when she made the decision to disappear from view. That was her choice as she had a team who would have been there for her if she would simply have asked for help.

With this disappearance of someone who was highly respected and very motivational, I see how it effects the other team members - me included. We think " what did I do, what didn't I do - why did she leave without saying anything."

After seeing this, I will never leave my teams without a goodbye.

On that note - it is Monday. I am the unskilled laborer for "Honey Do Construction" and I've rambled long enough! Mr. "Honey, will you get me. . . ." is calling!" and I really can't blame SP! I need them too much! LOL!
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    I'm glad you aren't leaving us! However, I do understand the overwhelmed feeling. Please know that we all love your posts and blogs, but only spend the time you want on here. You are at your goal and need the site less. That's not a bad thing!
    4643 days ago
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    That is why we love you Donna---your attitude to life is one which could be emmulated!
    Good luck to you and 'Mr.Honey' with the renovations will be all worth it in the long run.Roz
    4644 days ago
  • FITJEN48
    You are just plain super. Do you need sparkpeople? No they need you:) Not in a demanding we're gonna perish without you sort of way. But more in a let me go over and see what granny is up to. She so inspiring, laid back, and real sorta a way.

    Have fun with your garden. Stay real, and enjoy life...all of it:)
    4645 days ago
  • no profile photo CD1990669
    As usual, here I am two days late on commenting.

    I love your blogs...........they are so insightful. Being a co-leader must be tough, as I know how much time I spend on here without being one. You try and welcome everyone, keep up with all the threads within each team you have joined, yet still have time for your tracking, exercise and meal planning. That is a huge job!

    And you do fabulous at it. I would totally understand if you didn't spend as much time on here with all of us. But just know whatever amount of time you spend, it means a lot to all of us. It is a day brightener not to mention full of insight!

    So stop by when you can............yet give yourself a break and be good to you!

    4646 days ago
    Donna, I just wanted to thank you for all you do for the team. You made me feel so very welcome to the group and offered me some great advice. I really appreciate you being here! With that said, no one expects you to do so much! Just do what you feel good about and don't worry about the rest!
    4647 days ago
    I can see how Sparks People can be overwhelming and yet awesome. One can spend allot and maybe too much time here at the expense of friends and life. It is a great site for tracking our progress and eating patterns and just talking. Having balance and moderation is something that I have to work on. I am new at this site and so navigating it has been a challenge for me. I wondered how you fit all of it in your schedule too. Doing a house remodel is a real chore in itself, yet so wonderful when it is done.
    4648 days ago
  • GAELLE07
    Donna - I have wondered how you fit it all in with your large extended family and the renovations. I appreciate all your good sense and advice. Don't feel overwhelmed. Just pop up now and then when you are able to to let us know how you are doing. Good luck with the renovations, I know its hell at times. As you once said to me old age is not for cissies and you are a living example of that. You capacity for work is enormous. Take care and thanks for deciding to stay in touch.
    4648 days ago
    Just a note to a motivator! Even if you only reach 3 newbies each week...those 3 people will be changed by having someone special in their lives...Even if it's just a hello.

    I too struggle with spending too much time on here...b/c it is productive, but you're right-not at the expense of torturing our loved ones, and neglecting our gardens.

    We appreciate you staying!
    4648 days ago
  • TURTLE24
    Donna, I enjoyed reading your blog. Somehow today I can't find the chat room for the 50+ members. Maybe I am tired and I will see it tomorrow. Take care. Lolly
    4648 days ago
  • MOGAL1946
    Just dropped by to let you know how very much I enjoy reading your blogs. You can put into words what a lot of us are feeling and wanting to say. You are such a treasure with your wisdom and insight. Thank you for being You!
    4648 days ago
    Very well said - we still need SP and SP needs us but not full time. I have joined a new challenge this month - what do I need to work on? - finding the right balance for me between work, play, family obligations, SP and just me time - it is slowly getting there but the reason I joined in the first place was for my health - so I could be the best me I could be - that doesn't happen when I give SP 8 of my precious hours everyday. We are a work in progress on a journey that doesn't end - I find that exciting. I am letting some of what I thought were "must's" go - there are others who can do parts and need to do more so I'm willing to let them do it. I am going to be selfish and do those parts that I find most enjoyful and I'm not going to feel guilty - we owe it to ourselves to be the best we can be.

    Yay you - hugs - Jenna
    4648 days ago
  • PAMELA984
    Donna - you gave me quite a start at the beginning. Please don't leave us. I realize that being a team leader is time consuming, but there are some ways around some things I think. First of all, could you put in a sticky topic for newbies to introduce themself and the beginning would outline when it is and isn't appropriate to start a new thread? Or, another team I'm on, just sends a spark mail greeting the new ones on the team each week and then invites them to a particular spot. Just some thoughts. I would hate to see you leave us. I think it is the support of SP that keeps us all going and you would maybe do okay, but would you do as well?
    4648 days ago
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