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Saturday, April 04, 2009

I am a fairly private person so I don't put my info out to everyone. I don't like to be judged. I am very selective as to who I will include in what I call my personal vents. What I find interesting is that I can spill my guts and no one will acknowledge that I did so! My vent is like the elephant in the room! I am done telling anyone what I feel in my heart. It is hard to do in the first place and to have no remark on what I say tells me to keep my mouth shut!
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    Great advice everyone! Thankfully most of my friends are very supportive. I have 2 friends I have never met who I give a lot of credit to for helping me stick to my weight loss plan. They both met their goal and I am hoping to join them one day. They have been there every step of the way. I also have my SIS on the Leslie Walk Club and they definitely keep me motivated.

    Thanks to all of you! I am trying to remember that there are many levels of friendship and they aren't all going to be on the same level.
    4396 days ago
    I hear you, too! I've been discovering this is true more and more, and I'm learning who I can and can't believe when they say they're here for me. Lip service seems to be the order of the day for many, and that's certainly a hard pill to swallow.

    Please don't give up on speaking your mind, though. One of the biggest benefits I've discovered here on Spark is that there is always someone out there who hears and understands. Just look at the responses you've received already. Learning who your supporters are is just a part of the process. Don't shut down entirely; just pay attention to how people respond and release the desire to make someone into something they're not. Sometimes the best support comes from the most unlikely places.

    I'm here for you any time you need to vent.

    4397 days ago
    I hear ya!! I recently just shut down because I just felt EMPTY. Everyone had taken what they needed from me and left me EMPTY. It was awful. The best thing about being here, is we all know what it's like to be alone in our struggles. We're here. Vent away!!
    4397 days ago
    Ohhh are NOT alone. I have been going through this a lot lately with my "friends". I am always the Goto Gurl when there's a problem, but as soon as I need someone some of them seem not to have the time to just listen or be there or ANYTHING. Funny thing is they are the one's always saying I will be there if you need me....hell am I in the wrong place cuz said folks surely aren't there. I've learned the hard way to keep some things to myself. I, like you would just like to be acknowledged and supported. I too am pretty private. So, when I OPEN UP it's a big deal for me. Some folks just don't get it. I have been feeling ALONE lately and hey that's starting to be just fine!!!!

    Hang in there. I know and understand what you are going through. It gets tiring and frustrating. I have an open ear/eye if you need one...anytime......

    4397 days ago
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