Food, culture and choices.
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
I live in the US. There are many obstacles for making healthy food choices. Added to this is the fact that I belong to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Most meetings require some kind of "treat". We also seem to think that when anything happens people need to be fed.
My oldest son just returned from serving a mission. I am very grateful to anyone who fed him either by preparing the food or buying him food when he was out at restaurants. I would encourage anyone who feels a desire to feed somebody's son or daughter to go ahead and do that. However, my son was talking about several situations where they told people that they were OK and did not want food and were fed anyway. The only thing for the guys to do was to eat the food. I guess my point is that when a young man/woman says they are good believe them. I have had enough teenagers in my home to know that if one asks and they are hungry they know how to say Yes I would like that food.
Now my blog is not to rant on behalf of my son. I have been thinking about my weight loss. The culture I live in and why I keep eating. I believe I am concerned that I will miss something. What is missing from my life experience that food would help? What am I looking for?
Apparently food is not solving the problem but making others. I need to figure out what I can give myself that is not food that will help solve the problem. I am working to figure out what I can do that helps me feel taken care of.
My mother died when I was young. I don't know if that is part of it. I am also working to get rid of clutter. I seem to be worried about keeping things that I might need later. I am frequently worried that I will miss something. I am attempting to walk forward as if all will be fine and see what happens.
I also feel a real fear that if my family does not have the food moments we won't have the connection that I want to have with the family. My children are various ages and various interests so food is a good place to bring everyone together. I guess it works sort of. I need to figure out other options.
I also feel very creative in dealing with food. I like to make good meals. That one I am able to solve. I am teaching myself to make healthy dishes that make me feel like am creative in the use of food combination and spices. I am learning to cook more healthy for myself and my family.
As I type this I realize that their are more issues with food than I thought when I started this blog and this journey. I am making progress and I am learning. Each issue needs to be considered and a solution found.
I am making it different than it was before. That is something. I am doing this even if the choices are difficult.