How does personal guilt stop you on your progress to your goals?
Thursday, September 24, 2009
This was a question posted on the 10K steps a day team. I wanted to kind of ponder it so I am a day late to answer this question.
First I considered all the things that I feel guilty about, stuff from early childhood all the way through now. I could give you a list but, that would not accomplish anything.
I think that the biggest thing for me with guilt and my goals it that I want myself to have a total transformation and be perfect. I tend towards black and white thinking. So I will for example think I should give up sugar. This happened a couple of months ago. I gave up sugar perfectly for 2 weeks. Then I had a day that I did not plan my food well and I had baked some cookies for family members to take places. It was evening dinner was late and I needed to leave. I was hungry and grabbed a cookie. I ate that one and then a another. I stopped myself at that point that day. Then the next day I felt guilty. I ate several more cookies that day before I started giving up cookies again. (I just reread this and realized I should have said sugar instead of cookies. I wonder what that says?LOL)
I don't know if my problem is guilt or black and white thinking. I feel bad when I don't completely succeed at my goals and then I am slow to start over some of the time.
I also occasionally struggle with eating because I feel guilty about something but, I have come so far on that one that it is a small problem. I do pretty good about only eating when I am hungry.
Sometimes I don't give myself fully to the experience because I feel guilty that I cannot do whatever the activity better or that in trying to do something unfamiliar I will hurt someone's feelings. Believe me I can feel guilty for days on that one. I have even done that here online at SP.
I guess the progress towards my goal that is slowed or stopped is because I might hurt someone's feelings by doing something selfish.
I don't know I guess there was not enough stewing time on this answer so I will close now and read todays thread.