My brother is with God now...

Tuesday, April 05, 2011

No more tears
No more heartache
No more pain
No more sorrow

I guess when you commit something to God you don't really know His plan. My plan would have been to make his life as pleasant and pain free as I could make it. To make him know that he was loved. God's plan was to take him home. I knew all along that God's plan was the right plan because God knows all. I prayed for peace for him knowing that it might mean that he'd have to leave us. I had seen the anguish in his eyes and it broke my heart. My brother passed at 7:20 pm. We, my sister and I, had wanted to be with him as he passed to a better place but after spending many hours with him in the last week we went home. We had begun to think that he was hanging on for some reason because he was on the edge of death for much too long. We decided that no matter how badly his wife treated him, he still loved her and we would try to get her to comfort him by telling him she loved him. Since she was alcoholic and unreasonable and had not even inquired of his condition, we hadn't told her much except that he was doing very badly. We called her to tell her he was passing. It was not for her but for my brother who still loved her no matter how she had treated him. On May 11, 2010 he lay dying on the floor as she sat on the sofa waiting for him to die. No call to 911, no call to a friend or to us, his sisters, just waiting. If it wasn't for a neighbor he'd of been gone when this happened.
We put the phone up to his ear and told her to talk to him. She told him she loved him. Our goal was to give him that so he could leave. We went home to let him leave in peace. Being there was more for us than for him at this point. I said the words that I had said so often in the past months, “I’m going now but I’ll be back later” He waited until no one was in the room and then his spirit left to be with God. I imagine him comforted by the words from his wife. It was the last thing that I could do for my brother. God bless his soul~
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    I couldn't help but cry reading this. He was so blessed by you and your sister's love and compassion for him. And what a blessing it was for you two to persuade his wife to do the right thing. The first anniversary of the death of a loved one is so hard. I will say a prayer for you and your family, to receive God's blessings now and always. emoticon
    3526 days ago
  • LUCYCT001
    My sincere condolences. I'm very sorry indeed for you loss. It is clear how very much you love your brother.
    3526 days ago
    Bug you are such a loving caring person. Your thoughtfulness gave your brother the words from his wife he needed to be at peace and go to God. You are wise and loving woman. Peace be with you and your family.

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    3528 days ago
    Your words at the top of the blog seem to say it all. It was probably for the best, it seems that there was a lot of pain all around for the last year or so. I'm happy to hear that your sister made the trip back and was able to see him as well in the final days before he died. My deepest condonlences go out to you Bug. Hopefully this will bring peace to your brother's spirit and your whole family.
    3530 days ago
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    What a good sister you have been to your brother. Such an encouragement since I have four little brothers in my life. My prayers and thoughts are with you and the family during this time Bug. I can't wait to meet your brother one day in heaven!
    3531 days ago
    My deepest condolences, not only on the loss of your brother, but on the painful circumstances surrounding his death. What a generous, loving gift you gave him. Truly extraordinary... He was blessed with wonderful sisters and I'm sure he knew that. Now, his pain and suffering is over and time will heal your hearts...

    3531 days ago
    You were a wonderful sister to him, Bug. My prayers are with you and your family. emoticon emoticon
    3531 days ago
    Sorry for your loss. If your brother could, I'm sure he would thank you for your caring in those last hours, especially.

    ~ Faith
    3531 days ago
  • YKNOT08
    I'm so sorry to hear he has passed. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    3532 days ago
    Dear Marie I know you have such wonderful FAITH my heart and prayers are with you and your family accepting Gods plan is the key to letting yourself grieve May God bless you and your family....................

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    3532 days ago
  • ~PAMELA~
    Marie I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother! I know though he is in a much better place now. What wonderful sisters you are and you gave him a great gift just before he passed emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3532 days ago
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