Those who join Spark People likely join because they looking to change some of their habits in order to reach a goal, such as loosing weight. Some habits work for some people while other habits may work for others. You have to search for and pick out healthy habits, that are enough in line with your personality, that you can have success with your goal.
Strive to work on one new habit at a time and choose to work on something that you feel has a better than 50% chance of success. Some habits seem to be an obvious choice as a healthy goal but needs too much effort on your part to maintain since it doesn't match your current personality. Pick a habit that is a step towards your goal habit but has a better than 50 % chance of success; or, if you feel you have enough motivation and support, work on a habit that will give you the greatest feeling of success. Besides the goals posted in the Welcome Letter to Healthy Lifestyle Sparkers www.sparkpeople.com/mysp
, I found a list of habits titled "13 Habits of Fit and Lean People" news.yahoo.com/13-habits
Your current habits were not formed in a day. To create a feeling of control over your life, focus on changing one habit at a time and choose one that you feel has at least a fifty percent chance of success but would be a significant change. If you don't achieve enough consistency after a month of effort, move on to a different "major" habit of similar value for the next month, etc. until you meet with "success". Then you might fine enough motivation and return to give a renew effort to succeed where you feel that you failed.
The important thing is to have fun while trying to work on forming a new habits; and, to choose to test your self by not working only easy changes that don't require much effort ( they can be worked on also but not be the main habit of focus, so that even if you fail, you can pat yourself on the back for at least trying your best, and know that success can come later, if you take a break, and move on to a different habit for the time being, one that would also be a significant step towards your main goal.
I, myself, have my own faults like everyone else, but read somewhere in the past, advice similar to the above. By repeating the advice here, I am trying to motivate myself to do better, so I can be a better example to my family. Wish me success in my own efforts; and, more importantly, have faith that you can meet your goals by employing your current strengths and building up other strengths (e.g. new habits). Your current habits determine your personality.
Like eating junk food, all unhealthy habits can be changed with your own effort, especially through the motivation and support found in Spark People