I'm Back - Again
Tuesday, November 04, 2014
It seems that I write a blog entry about once every 4 years or so - sounds about right for me!
I dropped out of sight for a while this fall, due to a family emergency. My DH had a massive stroke in late September - one of those with no hope of recovery. He was in the hospital for a few days, while I contacted family members to let them know what was happening. Then, following his final directives, I requested no resuscitation, no nutrition, and no hydration. He was moved to a local hospice and he died on October 2.
It was a trying time; one of my sisters (she's retired, so she had free time) came out to be with me. There wasn't anything we could do for DH, so we spent most of the time getting re-acquainted. It was the longest time we had spent together for over 45 years, so it was about time we got to know each other as adults.
I realized immediately that I needed to drop all pending obligations, so I asked my co-leaders to take care of the Viva Vancouver! team until I could come back and help them again. I would have been back sooner (and, in fact, I've checked up on things from time to time), but I had already signed up for a 3-day conference at the end of October. I decided to attend, and I'm glad I made that decision - it was fun, and it was good to be back in the midst of a large circle of friends, without it being a memorial event.
For the time being, I'm staying put. My eventual plans are to sell my home and move back to Illinois to be closer to my family (and to the family farm), but plans have a way of changing. For now, I'm sorting through things, deciding what we've accumulated over the years that is just taking up space and what I really want (and/or need) to keep. Lots of decisions, but I'm getting better at making them, especially the hard ones.