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Getting there--slowly but surely

Thursday, May 05, 2016

Well, I'm not sure where to start. My name is Cindy. I'm in my 50s (ouch!) and I've been overweight for most of my life. I have been on more diets than I care to admit but this time is different. I joined Spark People in Oct 2013. I thought I was ready to lose weight but my Dad had recently passed away and I was not in a good place. Grief is an awful thing. I am a comfort eater. Along with my Dad passing away, my Mom's dementia progressed to the point that it was evident that she could no longer care for herself. My sister carried the bulk of the load in the caregiver department but it didn't make it any easier for me to deal with my Dad's death and my Mom being essentially "gone." I tried, really I tried. But after a brief period of weight loss, (about 1 months' worth), I got discouraged. I hit a plateau and we entered the holiday season...Christmas cookies were my friends. They reminded me of my Momma and Daddy's home. I gave up. I didn't have enough support from my family and friends to help me keep going. I gained back the 7 or so pounds I lost and piled on another 7 for good measure... I was at my all time highest weight when I returned to Spark People in January 2016.
So, here I am, 4 months later. I have now lost 23.4 pounds and I look at myself and can't see where the weight came off from. My daughter (17) points out that my face and neck are slimmer. I have baggy jeans that I can slip off without undoing the zipper. I can't fit into smaller clothes yet, but I know it is coming. I can run up the steps at home without getting winded and my walking endurance has improved as well. My husband has been incredibly supportive. He walks with me whenever we are not running off to a softball game (for younger daughter) or track meet. When the weather is not cooperating, my older daughter and I go and walk the mall. Sometimes the goal is a certain distance, other times it is a certain amount of time. The walking is the best exercise I have found for me...So, yes, I have lost 23.4 pounds but I still have a long way to go...No, I'm not comfortable with confessing how much I actually weigh but I will tell you--I now weigh what I weighed when I found out I was pregnant with my youngest.. She's 13 already so I'm thinking this is really happening this time!
I have found a really great friend here at Spark People and even though she is in Wisconsin and I am in PA, we are in this together! So, I guess the moral of the story is this: Get involved in the community here at Spark People. Share your victories! Share your frustrations! Lift people up with encouragement and let them encourage you. You just might find a new best friend! Stay positive and stay strong!
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    Hi! I came to visit. :) emoticon
    Some of your comments reminded me of the team I am trying to get started called The Sandwich Generation. It's for people who are helping their aging parents while ALSO raising children. I have it set as a private team because some of the things we might need to share, are...well, private. lol So if you are anyone else is interested send me a personal sparkmail and I'll get an invitation out to you.

    You are doing a GREAT JOB!!!! I think I've found that, rather than WALKING, SWIMMING is what works for me. It's easy on me, yet burns a gabillion calories an hour. No exaggeration. really. ;)
    Have a great week! emoticon
    1774 days ago
    glad to see you here! emoticon

    It's too bad that gaining is so much easier than losing. *sigh*

    But being here will help bring it about, I just know it!
    1804 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/14/2016 1:44:45 PM
    You are doing great!!! You will get where you want this time!!! emoticon
    1811 days ago
    You got this. It is all about a process and forgiving yourself for past mistakes and going forward. Anyone I know that has taken weight off too quickly has always put it back on plus. I also was over 200 7 years ago and had been there for many, many years. When I finally decided to take it slow but steady I got the weight off. Took me over a year, but all that weight has stayed off. I am cheering you on.

    1812 days ago
    Day One occurs many times in our lives. Welcome to Day One of trying again.
    1812 days ago
    Stay positive and keep up your great work!
    1813 days ago
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    All the best to you! Keep at can do it!
    1813 days ago
    I didn't think my loss of weight showed, but I found some clothes in my closet that used to look WAY too tight and I tried them on and they were loose. As soon as I started wearing the clothes that fit, everyone noticed my weight loss. I was wearing baggy clothes the day before and not one comment. I put on clothes that fit, and suddenly everyone is amazed at how much weight I've lost!!
    1813 days ago
  • FUNNYFACE101002
    Great job. It's nice that you can do this with others. We can all relate to part of everyone's story. Don't give up you're worth it all.
    1813 days ago
    I love this post. Thank you for being so honest and open. Your story is so inspirational. I love spark people for this! Good luck on your journey all the best!
    1813 days ago
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