ALIHIKES
250,000-299,999 SparkPoints 294,486
SparkPoints
 

Kerby and Mill Creek Falls. And SparkCoach

Saturday, October 07, 2017

Today's SparkCoach lesson is about talking to ourselves the way would talk to a friend using Support, encouragement, and strategies for success -- NOT negative name calling or frustration. I think this is one of the most important lessons I ever learned here at Spark! When you are trying to succeed at something difficult (like weight loss), DON'T beat yourself up when you have a lapse. Think how you could successfully handle the situation the next time, and MOVE ON! Don't break your long term success by dwelling on a bad moment. Keep track of your continuing successes, whether they are big or small. After all, NO ONE loses 75 pounds all at once. It is a continuing series of small goals that gets you to the finish line.

My good friend Linda has a hard time talking to herself in a positive manner -- she will tell ME all kinds of supportive and encouraging comments (you've lost weight! You look slimmer!). But she will refer to herself as a little piggy when she looks at a photo; and she has a hard time when I try to coach her into talking more positively about herself: You have a beautiful smile in that photo. You are making positive changes. You just told me your shirt buttons up without gaping again, that's a WOO HOO amazing success, not a beat-yourself-up moment.

We joined SP together; 8 years later I am still here and I am still slowly making progress on weight loss. She dropped out after 3 months and has been on the roller coaster of occasional short extreme diets that can't be sustained long term. So I DO try to stop dwelling on my personal faults and momentary lapses. Instead I try to make a positive plan for the future, and MOVE ON!

Whew. Now I'll finish with some photos from our recent mini-vacation!

We stopped in Kerby on our way home, and visited an amazing jumble of woodworking shops and artist. This place reminded me of a hobbit village! Doors were round.



My friend H



The main studio/residence/workshop



Every tree had a treehouse.







I fell in love with a redwood burl coffee table, but I restrained myself from buying it! Even if it was a good value I just don't need it.

We also did a short hike at Mill Creek Falls outside of Prospect. I am really glad that my friends like to stop and walk. It really helps to break up a long drive!





All in all it was a great vacation with good friends.
Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
  • JUDYAMK
    that is amazing Alison the tree house place and hobbit appearances!! You go to the neatest places !!
    I may scold my self at times ,but I am not one to start on the rampage of bashing myself when I go off on my plan!!
    Judy
    1113 days ago
  • MARITIMER3
    Beautiful pictures... I'd love to go to the craft studios.
    1115 days ago
  • no profile photo CHAYOR73
    You have such a wonderful insight of life, I love it!! emoticon
    1115 days ago
  • PATRICIAANN46
    Hi Alison..............

    You are so right. We are too often hard on ourselves and don't seem to realize how much damage this does. I am working on this and am getting somewhat better. When the boys were little, I bought a record with the song "Have Patience" on it. It was a catchy tune and now when I find myself getting mean-spirited with Myself because of something I didn't do quite right, I actually sing this song out loud. (only when no one else is home though, or Ken will have more evidence for commitment).

    I loved the tree houses. Ken would also love to see them. He built one for the girls, but we lowered it to the ground because Nola is such a little dare devil that we were afraid of what might happen.

    Have a great weekend. emoticon
    1117 days ago
  • EISSA7
    What an interestingly unique woodworking studio! Love all of the treehouses!
    1117 days ago
  • DYANNE4293
    Beautiful photos
    1117 days ago
  • MADAMES
    Really cool...Ah, spellchecker!
    1117 days ago
  • MADAMES
    Serially cool tree houses! Yes, positive self-talk is very important! Baby steps, baby steps.
    1117 days ago
  • SPARTANJAI
    Those are amazing!
    1117 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment


    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.
 

More Blogs by ALIHIKES