Kerby and Mill Creek Falls. And SparkCoach
Saturday, October 07, 2017
Today's SparkCoach lesson is about talking to ourselves the way would talk to a friend using Support, encouragement, and strategies for success -- NOT negative name calling or frustration. I think this is one of the most important lessons I ever learned here at Spark! When you are trying to succeed at something difficult (like weight loss), DON'T beat yourself up when you have a lapse. Think how you could successfully handle the situation the next time, and MOVE ON! Don't break your long term success by dwelling on a bad moment. Keep track of your continuing successes, whether they are big or small. After all, NO ONE loses 75 pounds all at once. It is a continuing series of small goals that gets you to the finish line.
My good friend Linda has a hard time talking to herself in a positive manner -- she will tell ME all kinds of supportive and encouraging comments (you've lost weight! You look slimmer!). But she will refer to herself as a little piggy when she looks at a photo; and she has a hard time when I try to coach her into talking more positively about herself: You have a beautiful smile in that photo. You are making positive changes. You just told me your shirt buttons up without gaping again, that's a WOO HOO amazing success, not a beat-yourself-up moment.
We joined SP together; 8 years later I am still here and I am still slowly making progress on weight loss. She dropped out after 3 months and has been on the roller coaster of occasional short extreme diets that can't be sustained long term. So I DO try to stop dwelling on my personal faults and momentary lapses. Instead I try to make a positive plan for the future, and MOVE ON!
Whew. Now I'll finish with some photos from our recent mini-vacation!
We stopped in Kerby on our way home, and visited an amazing jumble of woodworking shops and artist. This place reminded me of a hobbit village! Doors were round.
My friend H
The main studio/residence/workshop
Every tree had a treehouse.
I fell in love with a redwood burl coffee table, but I restrained myself from buying it! Even if it was a good value I just don't need it.
We also did a short hike at Mill Creek Falls outside of Prospect. I am really glad that my friends like to stop and walk. It really helps to break up a long drive!
All in all it was a great vacation with good friends.