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Effortless Change

Friday, October 11, 2019

www.youtube.com/watch?v=
Gl323egGzzM&feature=youtu.be


Yes, Michael Neill is promoting purchase of a new short course ("Living Insightfully") in this brief video clip. And no, I'm not buying.

But: I still thought the clip was pretty interesting.

Will power doesn't work, he tells us. Again.

Whereas insight makes changes effortless. And inevitable.

What is insight? Not an explanation. Not pointing the finger of blame. ("Ohhhhhh, now I get it!! It's all my mother's fault!!!" Nope. Sorry. Not that.)

Insight is the natural capacity of the mind for fresh thinking. Not seeing new things. But seeing with new eyes (apologies to Marcel Proust, who didn't spent all his time eating madeleines.)

Getting better at running the maze doesn't help. Using willpower to overcome bad habits may appear to work at first (like rocket thrust at lift off) with massive energy expenditure. But in the long run . . . no, it doesn't help. Because we can't keep it up.

Insight, says Neill, is the only thing that creates sustainable change. Inevitable change. Effortless change.


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  • _CYNDY55_
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  • JUNEPA
    Insight - a paradigm shift

    When we have an epiphany, that changes the way we think and changes how we do things.

    There is some effort, even though effort alone isn't where we should stop at making change when it becomes an obsessively self-righteous endeavour and thought to be a virtue, some effort is required to change habits, even so, sometimes it is easier to know what we should do and not go ahead and do it, not make the effort. Sometimes it is easier to be lazy and immature, even when we know it isn't the best choice. Wouldn't we rather be comfortable without doing what it takes to be comfortable, be rich without having to provide for ourselves by working? Musings that are being stimulated by a personal family issue. I have a work ethic and a drive for self-sufficiency that is family habit, has become second nature, There are two young family members, one is working, studying, learning to be self-sufficient and independent. The other is wanting to have money to spend and spends everything she can and creating situations that she hopes will compel other family members to rescue her, no "effort" to develop self-sufficiency or interest in working. When I think about it, what does she want? It seems to have as much money as she can access to spend. This may be immature, but there is a basic drive in us to want to "win the lottery" or "be rich". How does one stimulate the "insight, epiphany, paradigm shift" to bring about mature behaviour that includes a drive to "work, earn ones keep, contribute to society, provide for oneself, be self-sufficient" not "be a bum, wheedle money from others, want someone else to provide for them".... Why does one sister get it and the other one doesn't?

    Okay, my rant is over. A family problem and I am using the Spark platform to vent and try to bring some clarity and idea of what my role in all this is.
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    Comment edited on: 10/12/2019 4:33:37 PM
  • NANCY-
    Having a fresh perspective is enlightening. The hamster wheel does not serve us well.
    I find the path you are on intriguing.
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  • SLENDERELLA61
    I did watch the video. Interesting. You frequently have ideas that are new to me and I appreciate that. Do I think that willpower is not enough? Sometimes. In my life there have been times willpower has been enough to make big changes. Perhaps there was some insight that went along with the willpower. Do I believe that effortless change can come from insight? Absolutely. I have experienced that, too. Change my views, my thinking, and my behavior and feelings change.

    Again, thanks for sharing your helpful thoughts.
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  • GABY1948
    Oh, yes I agree with SLIMMERJESSE that YOU can write any of your books better than the ones you share with us!!!!
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  • MTN_KITTEN
    As I continue on with "finding" my self voice … and listening … I am amazed at how many people have told me that they couldn't just … eat when physically hungry, eat s-l-o-w-l-y and consciously and stop when comfortable. They need a mapped out plan.

    Will power, motivation, determination … carries us only so far. "Someone" else's plan only works for so long.

    Taking a personal inventory of how we got where we don't want to be … and getting back in touch with our true selves … that's where I want to be.

    Effortless … hmmm. I do think there is some effort. Just a different kind.
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  • JHADZHIA
    Agrees with Beck willpower isn't useful, burns out too quickly. For me, usually doing the same thing over and over every day would quickly bore me and make want me to move on. Some how Qigong isn't doing this. It is challenging me because of the pain and limited mobility in my upper body which at one time might have made me give it up. Instead, its inspiring me to do better, one millimeter of movement at a time. Four weeks ago, I couldn't even hold up my left arm because of the intense shoulder and arm pain. But now I can hold it up and the pain has eased below the screaming level for the first time in a long time.
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  • PENOWOK
    Insightfulness helps in so many ways, but it does take developing to get it figured out. Walking to the cupboard for a treat and realizing your looking to self-soothe is insightful and a great way to begin the learning process!
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  • HAPPYSOUL91
    Willpower = no
    Insight = yes

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  • JURASSICSUE
    What an interesting video - thanks for posting.
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  • JEANKNEE
    Really like the description of insight shared and resonate with OKM's response. Therapy resulted in amazing insights for me. My therapist was an incredibly compassionate individual! Simply being in her presence could be enough to bring forth insight. Kind of hard to describe.
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  • OVERWORKEDJANET
    Getting better at running the maze doesn't help.


    I love that!
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  • 1CRAZYDOG
    Wow! Definitely true! Willpower may HELP, but it's not the key.

    Thanks, am going to view this video again and see what I get out of it. Thanks for sharing!


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  • ONEKIDSMOM
    emoticon emoticon Totally on board with this. Insight, those "ah-hah" moments, is what change us, if we gently let it! I think this may be one of the reasons that the stream of consciousness journal writing and talking with a friend (or therapist) who listens non-judgmentally helps... those insights pop out on paper or pop out of your mouth... and bingo... you know something about yourself that either you never knew or you forgot. Marry this with the mother of all healers: kindness and compassion toward yourself... and we have a winning way of life.

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  • SLIMMERJESSE
    I bet you could do some great courses, if you want, when you retire.
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  • MARTHA324
    Interesting. Maybe when I finally "got it" it was insight that told me that the old things I did to lose weight didn't work???
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