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ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

Monday, November 04, 2019

I've always had a tendency to daydream. My first memory of school is my kindergarten teacher, Mrs. Bernstein, jerking on my pigtail, telling me to stop daydreaming.

Daydreaming is great for creativity, but not so much if it is rumination, analyzing past events over and over or daydreaming to escape from stress.

I have learned through the years to focus on the tasks at hand, but I still get caught up in time-waster daydreams. At my age I can't afford the luxury of anything that keeps me away from my goals.

As I've aged, my goals have changed, but it seems I still have time management issues. I want to get off the hamster wheel of useless activities. Lately I am dissastisfied with excessive entertainment taking away from my precious time such as movies, TV programs, sports, games, social activities, etc. I classify these as my escape daydreams. I'm still holding on to them, but now they are more an irritant than pleasurable as I realize that I could be doing something more worthwhile. I still want happiiness, but it is in a more subtle form.

M. Scott Peck wrote in The Different Drum "True adults are those of us who have learned to continually develop and exercise their capacity for transformation."

Creative daydreams are still okay, but I feel a turning point where there is no more room for self sabotage or escapes - enough is enough.
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  • LIFECHANGZ
    emoticon thank you for sharing this, snagged a quote!
    356 days ago
  • HAPPYELF
    I can totally relate to daydreaming, distractions and time management. I know there are only 24 hours in a day for everyone but somehow my 24 hours are gone before I know it. I also hate it when I go over situations in my mind over and over thinking of ways that I should have said something differently or acted to the situation differently. emoticon
    436 days ago
  • DIANEDOESSMILES
    HI Gracie!! I LOVE this blog!! So many escape into the realm of mind numbing activities such as TV (Me included!) that can be used in other areas (Me included!!)

    For volunteering have you looked into being a Foster Grandparent (Working in a local school system assisting teachers as needed. It's so cool because GF are allowed to give appropriate hugs!! Its a PERK especially since MANY kids now a day do NOT have a Grandmother living near them, and many do not have a Grandmother for various other reasons) and also associated with that is the Senior Companion program. I am a Senior Companion. I help the elderly with shopping, getting to the Dr's (we are trained to not go in, but I do with some however!! I HAVE to let them know I am only there for emotional support. That after we talk over the appointment, but I can not give my personal opinion or can I give them advice. But, it helps them so much to be able to look at me, and a reassuring nod, or smile or to simply ask "is there anything you wanted to bring up or any questions?" and it helps them to remember them, also we go out to eat, or just sit and chat. It's SO MUCH fun letting them talk about the past (most do) and just listen. Sure, I hear the same stories many times, but its the LOOK on their faces as they remember that I pay attention to. It's HAPPINESS. With some I do art, or paint etc. I help some to get back to activities they thought they could no longer do. It's so rewarding!! Its a volunteer position (both of them) but if one is under a certain income they pay a stipend its not much, and gas mileage. Or if over income we can take this off on our taxes!!

    If wanting to volunteer thru where you worship or another place, just simply ask them for what they need. It'll likely be a few different things, and pick the one you'll enjoy.

    LOVE your interests!! ENJOY them!! You may find inspiration on pinterest or youtube also. With the guitar, if a Foster Grandmother or a Senior Companion ,,, your musical skills would be so appreciated. Also if you are interested in leading an art/craft/ music group nursing homes LOVE volunteers and so do the patients.
    437 days ago
  • SPEDED2
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    437 days ago
  • GRACIE749
    Patricia - to answer your question what would be that daydreaming time spent on -

    Now that I am no longer working I would like to give back to community either as a volunteer or some other form of involvement. I've thought of Red Cross, animal humane services, or youth mentoring program. Also, I have a strong desire to do God's will and not my own, but I am waiting on guidance in that area. However, if it is just ME activities I have many faceted interests: piano, guitar, writing, crafts, genealogy research and my Spark goals of healthy body, exercise, nutritious food, etc.
    438 days ago
  • JOANN25
    Gracie: You are doing great and are trying to clear away distractions. There is not anything wrong with day dreaming as it can be helpful to you. You are taking time to sort it out and I admire you for that.

    Keep up the good work. emoticon emoticon
    438 days ago
  • PATRICIA-CR
    So, if you don't mind my asking, what would be that 'daydreaming' time spent on? Or what are those tasks you rather do? Thank you!
    438 days ago
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