good morning- TG for the trip. DH is adjusting to retirement. The first two weeks of the trip were rough - he could not relax - we had many a talk. You are no longer on a schedule - allow yourself to enjoy the trip. We have had talks about that period of time and he concludes with me that he could have done better and tried harder. We had a wonderful rest of the trip. He has a tendency to blame me for his behavior - this is one area - we talked about greatly. You are in control of yourself - your decisions and your behavior. It is your choices. I have seen a change - he is less blaming. I see that behavior rise and I say oh you are going to blame me for your choice. It took him getting out of his comfort zone for him to see himself. I am very positive and hopeful. He is putting up Christmas lights again today. He thinks this will be his last day. Something he enjoys and I love looking at them. In fact they are on now and I love having my coffee looking at them. I am relaxed, positive and confident that this Christmas season will our best ever. I am doing things differently to take care of myself. Enjoy the day and the season!
OH my dear, have been having those SAME discussions w/DH! You make your choices, those are up to you and are not my responsibility! he's hearing it somewhat. Glad he's busy w/his consulting and speaking for our county to Seniors regarding Medicare fraud.