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Intuitive Eating . . . Bonus Blog!!

Monday, August 10, 2020


A great Sparkie Friend recently posted a blog with a link about intuitive eating -- mentioning me. But: she's feeling guilty because her weight isn't where she wants it and she's not so sure about IE.

Oh my do I get that . . . and here's the comment I left:

This is a really great article . . . thanks for the link. AND I like BESSHAILE's summarizing mantra too.

So long as I approached IE from the perspective that I was still covertly trying to lose weight -- it didn't work for me. IE for me is about more than weight, it's about "integrity", meaning integrating my body with my mind and spirit, treating my body with kindness in both nutrition and exercise. And accepting that the body weight which results IS my natural body weight, my healthy body weight -- not some arbitrary body weight and pants size predetermined by me . . .

Genuinely listening to my body's signals, eating what I REALLY want to eat (which is NOT mindless junk food actually since that doesn't make me feel good at all), eating when I'm hungry, stopping just before I am full . . . and asking myself, one more bite? Maybe yes, maybe no. But: I CAN listen because I CAN eat again, when I'm hungry again.

Exercising to enjoy the nice feelings of my strong and flexible body.

It's about calm contentment in the present moment. What all of us really want. And which is right there, right now, for the noticing: always.

It's not the case that I need to weight a certain weight BEFORE I can permit myself that calm contentment!!
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    161 days ago
    Not an issue for me. I never had any anxiety over my weight. Just noticed I was too big and did something about it. Works against me too as I didn't pay attention soon enough. So relaxed about it from the start. And not worrying about a specific number helped too.
    Don't worry, be happy works for me. The only thing I needed was a little education on calories and portion sizes to get a better picture of proper sizes.
    166 days ago
  • BJAEGER307
    166 days ago
  • NANCY-
    I think you hit it.... it is about integrity.
    166 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/11/2020 3:29:48 PM
    I so admire you! One day it will come if I just give in and let go of all those thoughts. (((HUGS))) emoticon
    166 days ago
    Missed it yesterday but very useful
    166 days ago
    I missed this yesterday...maybe it was deleted in error by someone else on this computer? Anyway, good stuff!
    166 days ago
    Balance always balance
    166 days ago
    Just awesome! Letting our bodies be what they can be without high pressure is such a joyful way to live. I think my natural weight is about U.S. size 12. I was able to get down to size 10 in college but the effort to stay there was intense and lead to a 40 year binge. I'm back on the right track now and loving it.

    167 days ago
    167 days ago
    It would be nice if we could all convince ourselves of these things. I know intellectually they are true, but the mind plays tricks and ...
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    167 days ago
    Success at this process is like any other. It sometimes takes trial and error before success finally comes. The important part is the attempting and tweaking as you go and learn what will finally work for you......
    167 days ago
    167 days ago
    Yes, yes, yes...permission to enjoy The Real Thing [to borrow the tagline line from Coca Cola]. Don't try [and fail] to unlearn things / habits.

    Learn to love what loves you - food-wise! emoticon
    167 days ago
    Yes yes and yes!!!

    It feels so good to be free of those restrictions, doesn't it??
    167 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
    167 days ago
    Another thing P. McKenna pointed out in his book was that - the people he knew who were struggling with weight issues in a traditional way - a restrictive way - perhaps even a punitive way - were always thinking about food - all day long (I recognized myself there) EXCEPT

    When they were eating and then they gobbled it all up before even THEY could realize they were finally having that bowl of ice cream they had been longing for.

    His real advice was simple. Switch it up. Think about eating all through the eating process. Notice the cool slick edge of the spoon. Sense the sweetness of the ice cream. Is it really chocolate flavored? If it isn't - if it's some ersatz chocolate substitute put it down, go pop for the real thing and savor THAT. Eat real food. Eat exactly the REAL food you want - white cheddar - not lo-fat cheeze foot product. Just make the commitment that ... when you are eating - really think about eating.

    The book's message is so small it could be put into a nice little essay. It's still a tiny book and most of it is filler from successful people who talk about how they've had success with intuitive eating. But in the end - it is completely summed up in his little mantra.
    167 days ago
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    167 days ago
    On IE, I'm still having issues giving myself permission to throw out or store uneaten food.
    My inner wrestling match.
    167 days ago
    Sometimes I find it hard to detect when I'm "letting go of guilt" versus "slipping back into denial".

    Vigilance and peace with oneself... hmmm... there has to be a balance! But yes, permitting calm at any weight is a goal... because... LIFE!
    167 days ago
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