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So proud of my weight loss and my 'self care' project!

Monday, November 16, 2020

emoticon Howdy to all of my amazing sparklers!

I can't even believe it's been over a month since I've blogged. I used to blog every single day and I really miss that habit.

Blogging is like having a diary that we can go back and review how far we have moved forward...or at least we hope for that result.

I've been plugging along on my new eating program which has reaped amazing results. Starting August 1st. I decided I HAD to do something to get my weight under control.

I am now down -35 lbs in approx. 3 months..AND...I'm NEVER hungry...seriously I'm not. Get rid of the sugar and crap processed food in your life and you will do MUCH better regulating your appetite. When you do eat, have a big ole' hearty meal that is full of REAL food and drink tons f water, fizzy water...whatever you like that isn't full of fake sugar and additives.

YOU CAN DO IT! If I... (who loves food so much I could technically be referred to as a 'foodie) can do it you surely can too.

I was just ballooning upward with the pandemic. Of course a lot of the problem was so called 'comfort eating' with the grief process of losing my amazing wonderful hubby of 42 years last late July. But even more so was the lock down where I was forced to close my little consignment gallery which was considered a non-essential business March 15th. I was not able to reopen until about June 15th and things are still sketchy with the spiking numbers of the virus raging across our nation.

Of course in retail the rent keeps marching on. Talk about STRESS! My rent is very high as I'm located on one of the busiest highways in our little city of Bonita Springs. It's good to have that many cars whiz by and bad...because they ARE whizzing by.

It's been with persistence and just plain stubbornness that I've held onto my little gallery. I was lucky enough to receive a few small grants and Govt. rescue funding but that funding will soon have payments coming up. Low interest and small payments.. but STILL it's just one more cash outlay. UGH! But I AM so grateful I got those funds when I needed them so much.

I've been busy setting up my Meetup group for widows and widowers...but that too is in a bit of a stall as I worry about people being safe with this crazy virus raging.

I see other Meetup groups forging forward and I just can't in good conscience arrange for a bunch of strangers to gather together in a big group. Especially now as so many snowbirds are coming back from states that are 'on fire' with the covid virus.

I also had my first teletherapy session for some techniques to help me with my voice disorder.

It's called Spasmodic Dysphonia and I've had it for years and years. It has gotten progressively worse because it's aggravated by stress...and we are ALL under SO much stress right now.

I'm learning some pretty cool techniques from a voice therapist that specializes in SD and actually has it herself. Who better to learn from?

I've put trying voice therapy off for years and years never really finding the time to research and search out a therapist. I always used my sweet hubby as a crutch who would do lots of the phone work, or the customer interaction at the shop so I could rest my voice when it pooped out. Can't do that anymore my friends...if it's to be...it's up to me.

I've started tipping my baby toe into trying to meet another suitable man if there IS such a thing out there and meeting a new guy just freaks me out and makes my voice SO much worse.I FINALLY removed my wedding rings...they were truly my security blanket the past year and a half.

It's so weird because I interact with customers all day long and do fine in most cases but the thought of sitting across from a strange man looking into their eyeballs just freaks me out...so this voice therapy will give me more confidence and it's a long overdue ephinany on self care.

Don't you just HATE the uncertainity of our lives right now? I can see light at the end of the tunnel but it still feels like it's miles away my friends...miles away.

I am meeting a few of my grief group gals for an early dinner at our favorite British Pub here in Bonita Springs. They have a lovely outdoor section for social distancing and we go early, early before the crowds show up.

I'm particularly happy for this little get together as I'm introducing a lovely customer I met in my consignment gallery that I found lives on the same street as one of my grief group lady friends.

It couldn't have been a better coincidence since she is new to town and just moved into the same complex that my little English friend moved to a few months back and told us that she was so lonely because so many people are not returning to her condo.

Serendipity...that's what I live for my friends...I always think of myself as a bridge bringing people together.

I'm a pretty good matchmaker also. Not every situation works out but I'm there to attempt them anyway.

Welp...I hope you are well. I wish I had more time to be on Spark but I'm balancing a ton of balls in the air right now. Season is always crazy.

Stay healthy, believe in yourself, and SOAR! emoticon
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    Congrats on your weight loss. 35 lbs., that's absolutely fantastic and you make it sound so easy to do!! I'm still plugging along but surely one day I will kick the extra pounds to the curb. You are so right about the sugar and junk foods. I'm pleased to see that you are getting out with your group. Hope your little toe tipping brings a "friend" to do things with.
    43 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    Thank you for everything...
    51 days ago
  • SPARROW125
    Glad you have held on to your gallery through all this. So sad that you are alone now. Praying for your healing and wisdom in all undertakings.
    59 days ago
    Bobbi, congrats on your progress!! I just love ELAB!!! I have been to your town -- such a small world. I had a friend in college and her parents bought a place there to winter in. I loved going to Turtles!!

    Sounds like you are keeping busy and self care is SO important. Keep up the great work on yourself!
    We can and will do this!!


    63 days ago
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    67 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    I am happy that you are getting therapy for your voice. Your voice needs to be HEARD!
    68 days ago
    68 days ago
    It's great to hear from you, Bobbi! You have been busy losing 35 pounds! Woo hoo! That must feel so good and be such a confidence-booster. It's great that your business survived all the chaos of 2020. I keep hearing on the news about all the businesses that went under, so it is just wonderful that you were able to keep things going over at your gallery. I wish you continued success with that.

    And it sounds like your social life is going strong, too. It's hard, though, isn't it, now that you have to think about Covid danger. The vaccine cannot come fast enough so that we can all get back to some semblance of what our lives used to be.

    Keep us posted, my dear! Take care.
    68 days ago
    Spasmodic Dysphonia - interesting! I thought it was just me. Sometimes when I talk about something sad, or difficult my voice will catch, and my face twitches like I am trying not to cry. Not sure if I actually would tear up if I didn't stop myself.

    Nice to hear about your new friend. I hope you find a gentleman who can make you laugh! You deserve the best!
    69 days ago
    My heart goes out to you. It's so hard to lose a spouse. I was very backwards but I had 3 young sons to raise that kept me very busy. Ken is a wonderful man but he's not my first love.
    Hopefully we will be able to get together this season.
    God bless you in all your ventures. It helps to keep busy.
    Stay safe. Judy
    69 days ago
    Congratulations on your success and finding someone to help with
    voice therapy is wonderful. I don't know that I would ever take off my
    wedding rings but thankfully I still have my darling husband.
    69 days ago
    Have a great time with your grief group gals at the British Pub. I applaud the way you are getting out and getting the support you need.
    69 days ago
    You're still managing the consignment gallery, you're still helping others (Meetups and friendship match-ups), you're allowing the grieving yet thinking of the possibilities that the future will bring, you're releasing the poundage -- you are THRIVING! Thank you for sharing this update.
    69 days ago
    Wonderful news Bobbi! You are doing great!
    69 days ago
    Have you tried ZOOM? it is a great way to meet up without the risk of exposure.

    Way to go with the weight loss. I'm sure you feel a lot better.

    69 days ago
    Great to hear from you Bobbi. Congratulations on losing weight and switching to healthy eating. COVID-19 is very challenging for businesses and for the isolation and distancing. Out governor has ordered another shutdown for two weeks. The cases here are surging mostly from social gatherings. I think you are smart to hold off on hosting a get together of your group.
    69 days ago
    emoticon on your weight loss Hugs so good to hear from you
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    69 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    Juggle master!
    69 days ago
  • LINDA!
    You are doing well. I am so happy that you have lost 35 pounds. Fantastic!! I love the fact that you are such an amazing, independent woman. March on!!
    69 days ago
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    We were in Bonita Springs/Naples over the weekend and found it hard to find outdoor dining unless we went to downtown Naples. Such a pretty place. I suspect we we won’t be back for a while because Florida, in general, doesn’t want to have anything to fo with masks. It’s nerve wracking.
    69 days ago
    I was just going to email you tomorrow to see how you are. Congrats on the loss. That's terrific. Don't forget to ask the landlord for rent reduction due to covid; I think he would do it. I remember when you first started the business and I was going to call you to congratulate you. You didn't want me to because of your voice. I hope you are able to get to a point of being comfortable with it. Big hug, Bobbie.
    69 days ago
  • LYNCHD05
    The whole world is going through a really rough time right now with this virus so it is the right choice to limit people’s exposure. It’s not what we want to do but it is necessary.

    Glad to hear from you Bobbi and to know how well you are doing. Life does go o. No matter what we are going through. Take care my fr8end!
    70 days ago
    You are a very resilient and resourceful person. I wish you much luck with your eating program and therapy - great that you are taking care of yourself. Keep up the good work (and the blogging).
    70 days ago
    Glad to hear from you, heard that Fl. was really struggling with this virus. Our little county is really infested and it is right in our neighbor hood, due to the fact that a bunch of seniors gals got together for a card party where there was one person who didn't know she had it, infested everyone, and two of the other ladies lives with their sons and families and now they all got it, it just seems to blossom more every day. That said I think you are wise not to sponsor a get to gather. You just never know if someone has it and doesn't know it until they get sick and then it is to late.
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