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10/10/18 7:04 P

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Now there is no High Priest groups. I am excited by all the changes and want to know what everything will look like as we do it.

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1/29/18 10:29 P

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I think that the dynamic of our wards are very different. We have less than 20 sisters show up to Relief Society most Sundays. We are varied in age, however if we divided by age each group would be very small. The others about my age are empty nesters, because Heavenly Father has a sense of humor and I have 17 years between my oldest and my youngest. My youngest has a "Birthday twin." who is the oldest kid.

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1/14/18 4:00 P

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It just feels like the older sisters are in "no man's land." Two of our "over 70" sisters spoke in Sacrament meeting today. They felt they had to introduce themselves even though both had lived in the ward more than 30 years. That sort of isolation and level of invisibility is troubling.

Most of the "senior sisters" sit together in the back of the chapel. They help each other to classes and sit in the back there. Some have trouble seeing, others hearing, and still others with mobility. Still others have husbands with health issues.

About 30-40% of the ward is senior people and the rest are younger families. It just seems like the needs of the older sisters aren't really being met and there are enough to have a second group. There are about 50-60 attending RS and others in the other organizations If half of them attended a different group, it would still be a large group of sisters in either side.

The senior sisters don't have callings on Sunday so there would be a good group, but it isn't likely to happen with this bishopric.

When I moved into the ward, there were 11 sisters who were recently (within the past two-three years) single. The bishop was great and had a special group for them. He had speakers on finance, retirement, home and auto repair, even cooking. The sisters had each other for support and they knew they weren't alone. When he was released, the group was not continued.

The bishop who started the group still visits the single sisters every Christmas and brings a treat.

The subsequent bishops did not see a need to even check in on the single sisters. I guess they assumed the home teachers would be enough. I felt bad that I didn't have that opportunity to get the support and sisterhood those sisters had. They did step up and become mentors to me, though and filled in some of those needs that many don't understand.

I'd love to see the needs of the different groups of people who make up a ward have their needs met. I don't think that they are in this format.

Enough of me. I've so enjoyed the photos of my grandparents, aunts, uncles. It has been exciting.

Have a great day.

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1/13/18 4:55 P

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I really like having everyone together in the ward I am in now. But, I am in a strange place. I am 51, but my youngest is just 12. I like sharing the gospel with all ages. I can see why it might be better to seperate by ages. We have a smaller RS right now of about 12-20 sister attending on Sunday. I think the group would be too small if we divided. Our theme this year is Unity. I like that and I think for us being together will help with unity. Maybe it is harder in other places.

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10/26/17 6:59 P

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When I moved here there were 4 classes of most of the primary ages. We had 24 missionaries out when my first two boys were out. The demographic has changed and those of us who had those missionaries and are still here have aged into the older sisters.

We lovingly call the wards with this transitioning population of elderly and very young families "newly wed and nearly dead" wards.

There is a fair sized Primary and a fairly big Young Men and Womens group. It is a fun ward because there are enough to staff all the organizations.

There are enough that a large group of younger sisters are also in RS. That leaves no real place for the older sisters to enjoy their age and stage in life. I have known most of these sisters for 30 years. I think we'd have a great time together. Maybe we'll have to have a "book group" and talk about "books" we've already read or use that time to discuss the needs of our group.

Have a great day.

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Hi. I live in a Branch and we have similar problems
- the younger and the older sisters.
On the whole , there are differences in their stages in life. In our Branch, many of the younger sisters serve in Primary. They have a great rapport. For Sunday's lessons most of our sisters are the older ones.
I am the RS President for our Branch. I am blessed with great people to work with as Counsellors, etc. My first Counsellor is younger. She is very outgoing and enthusiastic. She keeps our Presidency in the loop of what is happening with these younger sisters and their needs, plus she lets them know what is happening in RS.
It is hard though. We do not have many sisters in the " in between" ages.

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10/22/17 8:05 P

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A sister and I were talking today, sadly, during Relief Society. One of the issues that has been increasingly evident is the focus on the needs of the young families in the ward. We are a diverse ward (newly wed and nearly dead with a small subdivision of mcmansions) The new year is coming up and I'm excited about the method of discussion. I worry that the older sisters (those 55 and up) will be pushed aside and not included in any of the conversations.

The brethren have several groups that are divided roughly by age and the High Priests consist of men 40 and over by decree. Elders tend to be the younger men of the Melchezedek Priesthood age. While this isn't a hard and fast rule, it does tend to keep the age groups more organized.

In Relief Society there is no such division. It has been good most of the time but has become a bit of a problem as there are two different groups of sisters,, those in the newer subdivision and with common interests of young children and their activities. Then the older sisters who have raised their children and are sometimes helping raise grandchildren but also dealing with health issues and have a hard time making a difference in the regular group.

It seems like these sisters, many of us as well, would benefit from being able to gather together and share the lessons in a way that worked better for them. The group would be smaller and the participation opportunities would be greater as well as the ability to socialize with women who share a history.

Just wondering if this is blasphemy or just an impossible dream?

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