Help Your Kids Love Their Bodies
Playing, friends, and homework are among the top things a kid thinks about during a day. But increasingly, one's body shape, size and appearance are competing thoughts. According to Kathy Kater, author of the book Real Kids Come in All Sizes (2004, Broadway Books), kids today are more worried than ever about their size. According to her book, nearly half of third- to sixth-grade girls of normal weight say they want to be thinner. And one-third of them have already restricted their eating to lose weight while 78 percent express fear of becoming fat. Females aren’t the only ones to succumb to the pressure to conform to a certain standard. Kater explains that the lean, sculpted male physique is increasingly presented as normal, causing young males to develop body image and eating problems, and worry when they don't have a six-pack.

Ironically, just as this preoccupation with body size is taking over the psyche of our youth, the health of our nation's children is plummeting. For the first time in two centuries, the current generation of American kids may have shorter life expectancies than their parents, according to a new report published in The New England Journal of Medicine. This anticipated drop is primarily due to the prevalence and severity of childhood obesity and its associated complications. So what’s a parent to do? How do you promote a healthy body size without instilling a preoccupation with it? You have to nurture a healthy body image.

“Body Image” is a term used to describe a person's perception of his or her own physical appearance. Someone with a healthy body image accepts his or her body as it is, while someone with an unhealthy body image sees his or her body as being unattractive or even repulsive. There is a broad spectrum of body image issues plaguing youth, and it is a complex problem without a quick fix. However, there are ways to prevent body image issues in your kids. To help your child achieve and maintain a healthy image of her body, it is important to first understand the combination of influences that contribute to an unhealthy body image in the first place. Then you can arm yourself with strategies to overcome them.

There are many influences that contribute to the unhealthy body image in youth, but one influence stands above the rest: the media. Open any magazine and you’re sure to find unrealistic ideals of beauty that could make anyone feel inferior. Turn on the television or a movie and you’ll see more of the same. But the answer is not to shelter your kids from these images. It is to help them understand them.

According to Kater, there are four common myths that parents need to address with their kids. Use the tips and activities below to combat negative influences and nurture the seeds of a healthy body image.

Myth #1: "How I look is more important than who I am.”
  • Read “Beauty and the Beast,” and discuss the idea of objectification.
  • Explore, together, the history of body ideals—corsets and Chinese foot binding are good places to start.
  • Page through a magazine together, noticing the unrealistic images that predominate the pages. Search for realistic standards that promote self-esteem and healthy lifestyles.
  • Watch a video that illustrates how the media's images of beauty are often fabricated.
  • Emphasize inner qualities in your children. Complement their accomplishments, good deeds and personalities.
Myth #2: “Everyone can be thin if they work hard enough.”
  • Teach your kids that every person has their own unique body type, and that complete control over body type and weight is not possible. Teach them that body shape is a lot like height—there’s not much they can do to change it.
  • Help them recognize and appreciate the wide variety of body shapes and sizes. Looking at the different body types of athletes make good examples—jockeys, swimmers, runners, wrestlers and baseball players all have different strengths thanks to their body shapes.
  • Help then understand that it is normal to experience an increase in body fat during puberty and throughout life. Teach them that this increase has a biological purpose.
  • Model respect for diversity by showing appreciation of your own body type. Don’t let your kids overhear you complain about your thighs or lament about how much you overate.
Myth #3: “Dieting is effective.”
  • Help them understand that severe caloric restriction is ineffective and unhealthy in the long term.
  • Focus on eating more healthy foods rather than eating fewer foods.
Myth #4: “Eating healthy and exercising is too hard, and no fun!”
  • Teach the importance of a balanced diet, and the pitfalls of relying on meals that provide little nourishment. The best way to teach this is by example.
  • Teach the importance of an active lifestyle, and how it can be fun as well as health promoting. Get active with your kids.
  • Choose fun fitness activities for that the whole family can enjoy.
Even when kids eat healthy foods and get plenty of exercise, there will still be a variety of body types, shapes and sizes. By teaching your children to accept and appreciate this diversity, they will become more accepting of themselves.
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Member Comments

ENGINEERMOM
I would add:

Myth #5: Do as I say, not as I do

Kids imitate their parents. Don't criticize your body, eating habits, or (lack of) exercise habits in front of your kids. All the conversations you can have about loving one's body go right out the window if all your child sees is a beloved parent staring in the mirror and hating what is seen. If you are trying to make changes, keep the dialogue positive - "I'm choosing to try new and more veggies because I want to help my body be a little healthier"; "I'm trying this new exercise routine because it will help me to not feel tired all the time and have more energy to play with you."

No "punishment kale" like in the radio ad, no talk about needing to go work off dessert, or complaints about looking fat. If that truly is how you feel, talk about it with another adult far away from your children's ears, or journal about it, or something that does NOT involve hating on yourself or your eating habits in front of your kids. Report
RAZZOOZLE
thank you Report
MOMWANTSNOWAIST
I disagree with the author on Myth #2 ~"Their body is the way it is ,there is not much they can do to change it."
What parent would tell THAT to their child and cause a hopelessness within him or her????
SP tells us adults that we CAN do it and make healthy changes . We CAN TEACH our children to CHANGE their ways approaching food choices. My DH and I have had to point out to our child the BAD CHOICES that our church {who feeds the children for AWANA night} ~all high calorie entrees and high starches ~no veggies at all! } So, we have opted to have him eat at home and GET THOSE veggies b/c it WILL affect your body later on .{My yoga instructor is having internal problems NOW with her body b/c of choices of NOT eating veggies when she was a child.} So, telling a child "Well, that is just the way your body is" promotes a NEGATIVE hopeless attitude instead of teaching HOW to make healthful choices, NOT having junk food IN the house to begin with and exercising with your child OUTSIDE and away from the computer. Report
ATEAMSIS08
My son is 19 and just started his 2nd year of college. I am pretty sure that he is comfortable in his body. Excellent article. Report
-POOKIE-
I never want my daughter to be like me and struggling with her weight or self image Report
JVANAM
As we grow old, the beauty steals inward.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson Report
KHALIA2
Great Ideas! Thanks! Report
1CRAZYDOG
It's sad, but we do have to start talking w/our kids about this @ a very young age. They are so susceptible to wht others think. And not that we adults aren't, as well, but kids haven't developed the tools yet to deal with this. It's up to us to help them Report
AIYANASMAMA
Great information! Report
PWILLOW1
Interesting article Report
1CRAZYDOG
This is a great article to open the door to discussing this topic w/kids and teens. Report
NANASUEH
A timely article. Report
KMACINNIS44
interesting article. I have two daughters and I think about this a lot. I always thought I was overweight growing up, and when I look back now I was so wrong. I don't want them to go through the same thing. Report
PZANDERS
The best want to help children love their bodies is to first tell them that you love them as they are. Hug and kiss them. Let them know that no matter what anyone else says, they are perfect as they are. Report
FANCYQTR
Don't try to get your children to eat more if they are underweight. I can tell you from experience that when young people are encouraged to eat more because they are small or thin, they will often end up overdoing. I was thin, small, etc. and my mother kept pushing food at me. I am almost 200 now after several years of trying to lose the extra weight. I did end up at over 240 at one time. Once a person starts growing up, they can often get to their ideal weight anyway. Also had a friend who was underweight when younger and couldn't get the weight off once she was older. She put on weight under a doctor's direction. Just don't push either way telling them that the way their bodies are isn't right. It's bad whether over or under weight to have people, including your own family laughing at you. Report

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Liza Barnes
Liza Barnes
Liza has two bachelor's degrees: one in health promotion and education and a second in nursing. A registered nurse and mother, regular exercise and cooking are top priorities for her. See all of Liza's articles.