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Bittersweet Valentine’s Day Anniversary

Friday, February 12, 2010

This coming Sunday, February 14th, 2010, Jeff and I will celebrate our 18th Anniversary. We met in College returning to finish, long ago started, degrees in our mid thirties. I had recently gone through a very painful divorce and pretty much just wanted to get my degree and start my career, and a new life. Little did I know that God had other plans for me. Sitting in my Tax Accounting class was a very good looking guy who was always turning his head back and looking at me and striking up a conversation given a chance. After several conversations and sitting in the Cafeteria doing homework together Jeff finally convinced me to go on a date with him. Looking back to our very first date… we were soul mates from the start. We had very similar backgrounds, both raised by Christian parents who had been married for years. Our paths had crossed many times throughout our lives, but, until we started to get to know each other we were clueless about that. We had a whirlwind courtship and married 9 months later. My father a licensed minister preformed the Wedding ceremony, and I can say the last 18 years have been the best years of my life, what a difference marrying the right person can do for a marriage.

For those of you who have know me for awhile might remember, my dear Dad suffered several heart attacks and a stroke this past summer and went to be with the Lord on October 23, 2009. I was Daddy’s little girl and took his death very hard. As the days and weeks have passed everyone in our family has missed Dad’s presence and have been dealing with it each in our own way. We all know that he is in a much better plan with no pain or suffering and he has met his Master at Heaven’s door.

As I approach my Anniversary I am saddened that my Dad will not be here to wish me and Jeff a Happy Anniversary, since he was the one who actually married us. However, there is another in my family who will miss him with a deeply broken heart, and a longing that his life could have spared him just a little longer. You see… My parents were also married on Valentine’s Day February 14, 1951, and it would have been their 59th Anniversary this year.

Will you please join with me in Praying that God will surround my Mom with Peace and Love and ease the pain that she will feel on this day of Love and Marriage, for she will not have her loving husband of almost 59 years at her side.

Make sure you tell your loved one that you Love them. Life is short and we do not know what tomorrow brings!

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  • MINDYJ1
    I'm late reading this blog. But I am still praying for you and your Mom! Hugs, Mindy
    4088 days ago
  • SEWINGSAGA
    I thought about you on that day. I'm sorry it was such a bittersweet day. I know the day my Daddy goes to heaven my heart will break. It's good to know the heart does mend. I'm sure you were a blessing to your mother that day.
    4102 days ago
  • SEWINGSAGA
    I thought about you on that day. I'm sorry it was such a bittersweet day. I know the day my Daddy goes to heaven my heart will break. It's good to know the heart does mend. I'm sure you were a blessing to your mother that day.
    4102 days ago
  • SEWINGSAGA
    I thought about you on that day. I'm sorry it was such a bittersweet day. I know the day my Daddy goes to heaven my heart will break. It's good to know the heart does mend. I'm sure you were a blessing to your mother that day.
    4102 days ago
  • SEWINGSAGA
    I thought about you on that day. I'm sorry it was such a bittersweet day. I know the day my Daddy goes to heaven my heart will break. It's good to know the heart does mend. I'm sure you were a blessing to your mother that day.
    4102 days ago
  • TESHIE4ME
    I am so sorry for your loss. I think it is wonderful that you had a close relationship with your dad, I will never have that. And I am so glad you found love so that you have support to help you through this tough time in your life. How romantic to be married on Valentine's day! My in-laws eloped on V-day and just celebrated their 41st anniversary. I will pray for you. emoticon
    4102 days ago
  • HILARY26
    im sorry im a little late reading this, but please know you and your wonderful mother are in my thoughts and prayers. i hope God does surround you all with his loving spirit :)
    4106 days ago
  • GGCHET
    Janel: so sorry I was late in reading this.
    The pain of loss of those so very special to us...never really leaves...the prayer is that the very wonderful special memories overtake the suffering of the end illnesses & replace them. I have found this to be true with my own dear Mom who has now been gone almost 10 yrs after 6 years of horror thru Alzhymers w/her passing at 55 lbs. It took a long while to get those pics out of my mind but...finally with prayer it is the healthy wonderful mom I try to always think of & speak to...usually daily:) I share this prayer for you & your mom!!!
    love & blessings,
    gail:)
    4106 days ago
  • KERBABE
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. How sad. Just remember your dad is with you all. You just can't see him. He's in your hearts. So, smile on Valentine's Day and tell him how much he is loved. Take care and give your mom a big hug and surround her with your love. emoticon
    4108 days ago
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    Janel, my heart and prayers go out to you and your mom. may you and your husband have a wonderful anniversary! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    4108 days ago
  • DIVAGLOW
    Janel my prayers go out to your Mom and to you. I know this must be hard for you. I wish you a wonderful Anniversary this weekend! emoticon
    4108 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5496460
    What a wonderful story and so well told, Janel! I pray that your mom will be comforted by warm memories and hold them close to her heart. How blessed she is to have had a dedicated husband for so many years. We don't see all those 25 and 50 year anniversary announcements in the paper these days.....so when we do, it's heartwarming! It's so touching that your husband arranged the romantic anniversary. Enjoy yourselves and Hugs for your mom.

    4108 days ago
  • EFFINGERSLADY
    You got me so choked up from your blog. Happy anniversary to you and Jeff. Hope you have many more years ahead. I will be sending up some prayers for your family. Thanks for the reminder to appreciate the people in our lives that God has blessed us with. Happy Valenines day to you and your family.

    Blessings,
    LisaR> emoticon
    4109 days ago
  • JEWELS571
    Ohhhh the tears! Prayers heading up for your mom and all of you to have peace and strength! Love you!
    4109 days ago
  • SWEET_DREAMS
    I was humbled as I read your blog. I have been moody all day because my hubby won't be home for Valentine's Day. I am reminded that I am blessed to have him in my life and that at least I will have the ability to talk to him and to look forward to his return next week.

    My thoughts and prayers will be with both you and your mom.
    4109 days ago
  • AMYLOVESTZU
    I will pray for you all.. Soo sad my parents were also married for 60 +years when my father passed away 9/15/2008.. You have to know that he is with you Always .. It helps .. So sorry for your lose and i will pray for you all
    hugs by spark friend..
    Amy emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    4109 days ago
  • BIGDAD1211
    I will be praying for your Mom. May God bless her with His Peace and Love.
    And Happy Anniversary to you and your husband.
    In Jesus Name
    Greg
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    4109 days ago
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