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Friday, March 26, 2010

It seems that I'm not on SP that much lately. Which means that my computer time is way down too, which, I think, would make my son very happy -especially during this holiday. :)
I don't want to bore you with my see-saw weight loss at the moment, because it seems like the same old thing I rehash over and over again. (BTW, it is my down week this week. Thank heavens for small mercies)

I feel so much more relaxed knowing it is going to be school holidays for two weeks. I started buckling under the stress of my son struggling in school. I found school very stressful and I didn't even struggle at it, so now having my son struggle is hard for me to handle. Today the only thing that will happen is him bringing back his report card - which the teacher already warned me would not be pretty. So, I'm preparing myself for the worse.

We are taking him for an eye test today after school. Hopefully nothing will be wrong, but I do suspect we'll go home with some eye exercises at the very least. Then on Tuesday I'm taking him for the initial tests to be done so that he could start Neurofeedback. It is going to cost us a pretty penny, but the Pediatrician said it is worth trying before we go the medicine route again. I really hope this is the answer to our dilemma. However it is going to take time and the doc said that to give it three months before making any other changes.
Oh, and then two night ago, my son walks into the study and announced that he won't be going back to school after the holidays. He said that he will stay home and that I should teach him - especially about Rockets. :) I didn't know how to answer him, because he was so convicted in his argument that I couldn't outright say "no". He took it as a yes and promptly went to my husband and told him -very convincingly that I'm now going to teach him at home and he will have no need to ever go back to school. For a wannabe homeschooling family that should have been the best news ever, but it suddenly struck fear into my heart, because the last thing I want to do is fail my child. My husband thinks it is a sign. I think after two weeks at home, he will miss his friends and will want to go back to school. Although this morning he didn't want to get dressed and sternly reminded me that " Mommy remember I told you I am never going back to school."

These things all weigh heavily on my mind. Which could explain the gaining every two weeks.

Gym time will be few and far between this holiday. I will have to make the best of things at home. Time to dust down the elliptical and do some old exercises and maybe get the family to join me. :D

Well, I just wanted to touch base. I'll talk to you soon.
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    Sending good thoughts to you and your son.
    4141 days ago
    Karen, that is a lot to deal with. Our children are our hearts & souls and it is painful to watch them suffer. How hard it must be to have your child adamant about not returning to school. I feel for you and hope that this holiday does you all some good.

    As far as exercise, it is great to change things up and the elliptical is such good exercise. Enjoy the holiday and I am thinking about you.
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    4144 days ago
    Karen you will do the right thing, I am sure of this.

    God Bless.

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    4145 days ago
    My son was in a self-contained classroom for children with behavior disorders for two years. It was hard for him and for me. He felt rejected and ashamed. But, looking back now, I can say that it was the best thing for him. They taught him to sit at his desk, to do as he was told, and to show respect to everyone, including himself. I know that, even thought I am a certified teacher, I could never have helped him if I had kept him at home and tried to teach him. Somehow, someway, things work out.
    4145 days ago
    Karen, as you know, I'm the mother of a child who didn't quite fit in at 'normal' school (if there is even such a thing!!!) From my own experience, I'd recommend that you follow your heart and choose the education route you feel best suits your son. You are such a great Mom that, should you opt for home schooling, I have every faith in you that you will not fail him.
    love, Jen xxx
    4145 days ago
    Being a parent is so hard; I never knew until I became one that my life would revolve around two emotions, guilt and fear. Hang in there; you're are an awesome mom and I know you will do what's best for your son.
    4146 days ago
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    Karen I know you been going through a lot with your son. But I hope you guys will enjoy the holiday and maybe you can mess around with the idea of teaching your son during these 2 weeks. Don't forget about you and your exercise during the 2 weeks!

    Take Care!!
    4146 days ago
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    It can be very stressful for the parents when their child is not excelling in school. When Kai started school he was very much behind and he is still very behind in reading in spite of the fact that he reads very well and more and more on his own. I do want you to know that here in the States, many people successfully home school and their children still grow up to be brilliant. There are many helpful programs (Ambleside Online is the one my friend uses: http://www.amblesideonline.org/New.
    shtml) on the internet to assist with your child's education. Perhaps even if you just took 2 weeks while your son is on holiday to work with him you and he both will get an idea of what you can expect of your day and how well he will have to respond to you. At this point he may be thinking "Woo hoo, I can play around all day" rather than working hard on his own, you know?

    Whatever you decide hon, you just hang in there. emoticon
    4146 days ago
    As I was reading the first part of your post my thoughts came from the former teacher in me. I thought, "wow, if only other parents would take this much time and interest in their child and his education." Too often I have seen parents just expect the teacher/school to take care of the "problem." emoticon for looking for ways to help him, especially with alternatives to medication.

    Then when you wrote about him wanting to stay home and be home schooled I thought, "that is probably the solution for both or you." It would get him out an environment where he is uncomfortable and unable to learn. It will reduce your stress over what you can't control at school. It will get you both into a daily schedule where you can include fun workouts with your son. Then when you said you are a, "wannabe homeschooling family" I thought emoticon .

    Then came, "but it suddenly struck fear into my heart, because the last thing I want to do is fail my child." There is no way you are going to fail your son if you are always looking to do what is best for him. After all, he is YOUR son. Who has more of an investment in him, you or the school system? I encourage you to seriously look into this and consider it as an option.

    I know change (and the unknown future) can be scary at times. Sometimes change is exactly what we need to kick-start some positive growth in our lives. I send you blessings as you and your husband decide what is best for your family.

    BTW, it is good to see you back on here. I have missed you. emoticon

    4146 days ago
    Children can be a challenge but remember that you are the adult and you are supposed to explain why they need to go to school... so mommy can keep her sanity, lol!! Good luck!
    4146 days ago
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