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WORDS.... My One Word for 2013

Sunday, January 13, 2013

I have chosen "WORDS" as my one word for 2013!

Words was also my one word in 2012.

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair.... Dickens

A truly paradoxical year....

LOL so many words, so little time.

Follows are my random ponderings about Words

What you say can preserve life or destroy it; so you must accept the consequences of your words. Proverbs 18:21

But no one has ever been able to tame the tongue. It is evil and uncontrollable, full of deadly poison. James 3:8

Remember this, my dear friends! Everyone must be quick to listen, but slow to speak and slow to become angry. James 1:19

"Sticks and stones will break my bones , but words will never hurt me!"

I've often wondered if that was the first lie I learned to tell myself, when I was 5 or 6 years old on the schoolyard playground. For some reason a classmate decided she didn't like me and took particular pleasure in humiliating me in front of as many of the other children as she could gather to "her side". I repeated that phrase over and over to myself while trying to block out the taunts and name calling. I can still see her leading the "charge" with nearly every other child on the playground lined up behind her, running downthe hill while I tried in vain to find a hiding place.

25 years later I would often see that childhood nemisis while shopping at the local mall. She never failed to laughingly remind me of that time in our young lives. I never laughed with her. Instead I felt small, intimidated and humiliated all over again.

Words do hurt! Words wound us deep within ourselves, and leave an imprint of that wound which waits to be healed. We are mostly unaware of those wounds until they begin to fester and cause us difficulty and pain in our daily lives.

It takes 7 to 10 positives to cancel out one negative! Words, thoughts, incidents, memories....negativity beats us down and makes us feel less. The lesser we feel the more difficult it is to look at the positive side of things. You know that negative feeling that comes over you when your feelings get hurt? Sinking butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach? Coldness starting in the head as the blood drains? Weakness in your arms and watery knees?

My ex used to say it's over and done with forget it and move on? If only it were as easily done as said.

It's not always the words that are said, but the tone of voice, or the context. Many times it's a simple misunderstanding of a word or phrase that was intended to uplift and motivate. As a co-leader of a team with members from all over the world I've been the mediator in more than a few of this type of misunderstanding.

I come from a PA Dutch background. Vee talk goodt even if we don't speak well. We say I seen something instead of I saw something, prolly instead of probably, figger instead of figure. There are times when I'm in hurry I will write the way I speak. I am often misunderstood, and have hurt peoples feelings because of it.

I love words, learning new ones and their meanings. I'm going to subscribe to a word of the day for the New Year. I hope the year will be one of learning new things both intellectually and about myself.

This shall be my daily prayer
Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips. Psalm 141:3 Lord let my words bring health and comfort to all!

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    I appreciate reading your words about the very power that words can hold over how we perceive ourselves and our world. I'm sorry that as a youngster you were the target of a bully or, at the very least, bullying behavior. While it is true that a child, a person can outgrow the hurt of these incidents, the scars can carry on well beyond childhood. My hope for you is that you are able hug the child that lives within you (and all of us) and comfort her with the knowledge that she is safe and loved in your care. I am sending positive, healing thoughts and energy your way. Keep on keeping on taking care of you as you take such good care of others. Thanks for all you do.

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  • FREES1
    words do have such power - over ourselves and over others... the words we use give meanings to the things and happenings around us...
    when we anticipate something our bodies respond physically in the same way in preparation... do we call that feeling fear? or excitement?
    may we all be filled with positive, good, kind, enlightening, helpful words in 2013 - sharing the good, setting aside the hurtful...
    and thanks Ceri for your words of wisdom -very thought provoking blog!
    3115 days ago
    Beautiful blog - thanks for sharing!
    3115 days ago
    Very true what you write. One thing I've changed over the years is to not speak so quickly. People say I'm very quiet, but I find its better to think before I speak. Working around children, they are very impressionable. It is important to speak in a positive but also truthful manner so they trust you and also learn from you. You'll also have fewer regrets as you go to sleep at night.
    3115 days ago
    Words are power. One of my favorite meditations is nearby, “May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.” (Psalm 19:14)
    3115 days ago
    Things take time, and work. People who haven't dealt with this kind of stuff often don't understand. Be patient with yourself and keep pushing!
    3116 days ago
    There sure is alot of power in words. I want to tell you, you have been nothing but kind and encouraging to me. I feel that if anyone spends 5 minutes getting to know you they will find a kind and gentle soul. As for youer nemisis maybe she felt small and unwanted and used you to make herself feel important. I know it doesn't take the pain away but maybe it helps take away her power. I wish you the healthiest and happiest New Year yet!!!
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  • OJ_2_OK
    My 2013 word was movement. and i was thinking about how it ties in with your "words" and I hope that I am able to "move" myself away from those who do not carry words of encouragement. I don't want those kind of people to have a place in my life. I hope the same for you.
    3116 days ago
    good choice but let's choose the good words for a change. I will listen only to the good words this year! emoticon
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    Happy New Year!
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  • no profile photo JEANNETTE59
    In truth the pen is mightier than the sword.

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    3116 days ago
    You have spoken well.
    Words and how they are used are so important that the "word" important doesn't even express it well.

    How many things carry over from childhood inside of us. I remember actually acting badly to neighborhood children because they did not include my daughter in their trick or treating. Childish, yes but there was something hurt inside from my own childhood that was coming through as well.

    My Word for this new year is "Strength". But truly, your choice carries more weight than mine.
    3116 days ago
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