Losing the People You Love Without Losing Yourself
Monday, February 03, 2014
I will be 67 next week and I remember when my dad retired he and my mom lost 8 or 9 of their friends within the year. My husband and I noticed that about the same ages we lost 3 of our friends in a short amount of time too. It's a part of life that we're born, we live and we die. Sometimes though it is so difficult to accept, and it makes us think about our own lives in ways that are even more real when our friends who die are close to our own ages. We start thinking about the things we didn't do or can't do anymore. It makes us sad even sadder after another funeral or another visit to a loved on who is sick or whose sickness is nearing its end in death. Winter can add to the sadness. We need sunshine and exercise to lift us out of depression when the sadness begins to build up in our minds. Some of us need Vitamin D or counseling or even medications to pull us out of a spiraling depression when sadness deepens. Some of us feel better when we share our thoughts with friends and family. A few may need to see a psychiatrist to see if we need more help than just talking. For some of us looking forward to Spring or a vacation or playing with grandchildren can lift our spirits. It may take all of the above to make us feel truly well. It's important to keep reaching out, to push yourself to exercise, to be with people, to listen to your body, to give your body, mind, and soul whatever it needs to make yourself feel better and be better, to be healthy and vibrant for yourself and your own loved ones who only want the best for you. Do what you can, when you can, for as long as you can. If it's not working, get help. Stick with Spark People, see a doctor, help someone else, and help yourself. Don't give up. Keep going until you become the person you remember yourself to be or the person you want to be.