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Short vent 8/7/14

Thursday, August 07, 2014

I don't understand why the girls Sydney is hanging out with at dance have to be so mean. She gets in the car last night and bursts out crying because the girl she had a sleepover with last Friday night was completely cruel to her at dance yesterday. I mean, really mean and rude. I don't get it. And then she looks at me with tears running down her face and asks me what's wrong with her that people would be mean and intentionally exclude her. I am at a loss as to what to say other than that girls can be very mean and she must not take it as a reflection of her worth as a person.

That girl reached out to Sydney on Friday and asked her for a sleepover. She invited her to her house, it's not like we forced it on her. And then five days later she's a complete nasty girl to her. She teamed up with another nasty girl and really was horrible.

I promised Sydney if she keeps telling me what is going on that I will not take away her cell phone or make her get off social media. Maybe she shouldn't be on instagram but I know her and if I tell her I'll take away the phone she will stop telling me what's going on.

The worst of it is usually this girl is nice and I like her mom a lot. It was baffling to me why she acted this way too. I told Sydney not to wonder why but to back out of the text conversation that continued after she left dance and to not interact any more last night. She has to go back today. We'll see how it goes.

I seriously don't like these dance people very much sometimes........

Thanks for the vent. This is the only place I can vent this out without those friends seeing it!!
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    I had a girl in school that was very mean to me! years later I see it was because she had problems! and...she could and did get away with it! she was impressing her friends! hope all goes well today and if not find a way to stop her! emoticon
    Your daughter deserves better!

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    2242 days ago
    Life can be hard sometimes for kids... I am so sorry that your daughter has had this experience, but hope that she can bloom beautifully regardless of her so called "friends"... Shame on them!
    2546 days ago
    Wow... poor kid.... I agree it's more about those girls than it is about Sydney. And you really don't want to take away her phone and social media because of the behavior of other people. I think telling her to back out of the conversation was the right advice. Hopefully things will calm down, but if they don't, maybe you could talk to the other girl's mother?

    Sometimes kids get under the influence of other kids and they suddenly change attitudes. Girls especially, I think, get into this "victim of the week" mentality where they tend to gang up on each other for no discernible reason that would make sense to an adult. Then, as suddenly as it started, it's over with, and you may never find out what the problem was. But, you have great communication with her, so keep it up, keep reminding her that it's not her fault, and she'll come through it.
    2546 days ago
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    Kids can be cruel and Dance peeps as well as Gymnasts can be really really nasty.

    So sorry to hear that, I hope mini terror will calm down
    2546 days ago
    Wow! the joys of having a teenager!! You did and said the right things. Just be there for her. It's hard to sit back when they are hurting, but they will work through it, one way or another. I remember those days... my girls are 20 & 22 and they still have those issues. It's part of growing up and learning to deal with the differences in people. I tell my girls... "you will have issues of this type, in different situations & on different levels, for the rest of your life! So you just have to decide if you are going to let it roll over you and break you down, or walk the other way and be standing strong. Keep in mind, it's usually not about YOU alone, but their own insecurities showing. So, love yourself and others will love you too."
    As a mother, be strong and just be there for her! emoticon
    2546 days ago
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