sometimes stress is just fear

Sunday, March 13, 2016


I keep stressing myself out with fearful thoughts such as::
- someone I love doesn't love me back, therefore I'm not love-able
- something bad will happen in the future (lose job, get sick, etc.)
- I'm not good enough
- many other things

Instead of using food to help me calm down, I want to:
- remember that stress can sometimes be just fear
- figure out what I'm afraid of at that moment
- address the fear(s)

Once I do that, my stress dissolves and my state shifts from stressed misery to clarity and openness. I can use the energy that was focused on my fears for other things. It seems like magic!

Current Goal: 100 days in a row of not using food to manage stress or fear. I'm on day 5.
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  • no profile photo CD4199227
    1916 days ago
    Well done!
    1916 days ago
    I tend to be a worrier but years ago I read that most things we fear and worry about never actually happen so it's futile to worry. What works for me is to plan ahead. I try to be emotionally and physically prepared for adverse things that could happen even though there could always be some freak unexpected occurrence i could not anticipate. I lost almost all of my family members within a period of 3 years. I'm not a religious fanatic nor even a fan of most organized religions but what has gotten me through rough times like this in the past is my faith and I know it is what I need to get me through anything I have to face in the future. I know that some higher power always supplies me with what I need when I need it and that they have never let me down. When I feel overwhelmed I admit my frail state and turn it over to that power. A peace comes over me. A question I think of is, "What would I do if I cannot fail?" I can't fail. I will be okay no matter what life throws at me.
    1918 days ago
    There's a wonderful book I read a long time ago called "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway."

    I, too, am one to imagine bad things happening. And you're right - it's not productive. And it can definitely lead to eating instead of dealing with the fear or whatever is causing it.

    Good luck on your 100 day journey! One day at a time.
    1918 days ago
    Hi, don't let your mind go there. You have to think positive thoughts. Do something that makes you happy. The mind can play a lot of tricks on us.
    1918 days ago
    Good luck. Fear comes in many ways. Try writing good things about yourself every day at least one but you can do more). It makes me feel Great
    1918 days ago
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