Pregnancy or adoption?

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

A lot has happened since last time I blogged. Or hasn't happened.

We are still trying to conceive a our first baby. It's been 32 months now (since Dec. 2013), including two failed IUI's. I feel like I am starting to give up hope. When we had just started we talked about 'how far' we would go (IUI? IVF?), and I always thought I would do everything I could to conceive, just to avoid a feeling of 'if I just would have' later on. But now that we have finished two rounds of IUI, I am starting to have a bad feeling about all the medicines I would need to take should we try IVF.

In the mean time I started with a Yoga Teacher Training, which is making me realize more and more that I want to take care of my body and my mind. Taking lots and lots of hormones, and doing everything, no matter the costs, just does not fit with being kind to myself. The yoga training also helps me accept the things I cannot change and gives me courage to change the things I CAN change.

In relation to this, we are seriously considering adoption now. I know this will be a long procedure as well, and I am not planning to quit all medical treatment right away. We will probably finish all 6 IUI procedures (unless of course by some miracle I do get pregnant before that), and we have not yet made a final decision about a possible IVF procedures. But it feels good to give ourselves more than one option. Besides, even if I did get pregnant, we would still consider adopting a second or third child.

If there is anyone out there who has adopted, I would love to hear from you!
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    I understand where you are right now. I too have been trying to decide what my next step is after I complete this journey with the naturopath. If I am not to get pregnant by at least the end of the year, what then? Will we adopt? Foster? I know we can't afford to do any other medical treatments. I applaud you for taking the time for you. I think it's great that you are able to work through all that you are. I wish you all the best!
    1806 days ago
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    I understand your feelings. We tried for three years naturally to conceive my second son. After two REs I finally got on a good diet that helped my hormones get on track and then I had a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. This time we have been trying for two years, but I have not been following a healthy diet, and during this time we have had two miscarriages. One of them was early, the other was at 16 weeks.
    We have never wanted to do anything high tech, or adopt. The trouble is that we know I can conceive naturally, it's just a matter of getting my hormones in check so I can maintain the pregnancy.
    I wish you the best and no matter what motherhood will come soon I am sure.
    1807 days ago
    Said a prayer for you! Hugs!
    1808 days ago
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