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So frustrated

Monday, July 25, 2016

I went "home" (Baltimore) to go bridesmaid's dress shopping for my best friend's wedding. She has 5 bridesmaids, of which I'm the a) oldest (10 years older than 2 of the others), b) shortest (by at least 3") and c) fattest (by a good 30-50 lbs). The upside is that she just wanted us to have the same color and length dress, but we could select different styles. I've lost 44 lbs since she asked me to be in the wedding and wear a size 14. Not great, but not horrible...or so I thought. So, we all have an appointment on Saturday and the "consultant" tells us to pick 4 dresses each to try on. She shows up 3 styles that don't come in the color we need. The other girls are LITERALLY size 4, so everything they put on looks great. They simply have to chose which one looks the most gorgeous. 5 dresses later I find one that doesn't make me look like Jabba the Hut drowning is chiffon. The consultant writes down the information so I can order it up front, but when we go up front the cashier says the dress is discontinued and doesn't come in my size/color anymore. I cried. In the middle of David's Bridal. The bride convinces me to try something else on and I end up really liking it. Again the consultant writes down the information and I take it upfront. Again, I'm told it doesn't come in the right color. I left without a dress. And truly crushed. I KNOW it would have been even worse if I hadn't lost so much weight, but I basically feel like the work I've put in makes no difference. I'm still disgustingly fat (and old and short). I really want to back out of the wedding, but I know the bride would be crushed.
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  • ENGELKUH89
    look attractive on your figure. Best of luck and keep your chin up! You gotta have faith that by the end of this, you'll be laughing and you'll have lost even more weight!
    1783 days ago
  • ENGELKUH89
    You are nothing short of awesome and I know that she wouldn't care of you wore a toga if it means you will be there. Perhaps the best way to go will to go online where you have size and color filters and can go from there to find a style that would
    1783 days ago
  • SNAPDRAGON04
    It's a David's bridal consultant. The dress has to come from there to match the color the bride picked.
    1783 days ago
  • WHITNEYLD
    Try a different store and try not to be disheartened. I am the same size and 5'3. Not my best look, but try to focus on the positive. Everything is going in the right direction!
    1783 days ago
  • BITTERJAVAMAMA
    I went through over 39 dresses before I found the one I loved and still had to have alterations done to it. Don't give up. You'll find the perfect one soon!!
    1783 days ago
  • BITTERJAVAMAMA
    Chin up. Be proud of how far you've come. Is there others stores to check out in your area? Or maybe take a dress to a seamstress that could do the alterations? If it means anything, I am totally proud of you.
    1783 days ago
  • BITTERJAVAMAMA
    I am so very sorry this has happened. I understand. 18 months ago while planning my wedding I ran into the same problem except it was me, the bride.David's bridal tried to be as accomadating as they could but I was inconsolable. Please keep your....
    1783 days ago
  • CANDIGIRL4K
    The work you've put in counts for a lot...Don't take away from yourself! I agree that a good consultant should have had more options especially after the first disappointment. I feel for you..keep pushing and enjoy your success with dress that works!
    1783 days ago
  • EPPIESMOM
    If the consultant is worth her salt she should have more options available than j u st David's Bridal to work with. And because more we omen are a size 14 then she s hold have a plus size bridal store on tap. If I were the bride I'd be pissed at HER
    1783 days ago
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