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Home for the Holidays

Thursday, November 09, 2017

My mom passed away 4 years ago on Thanksgiving day, and the holiday season has been a little tough since then. I've been trying to create new traditions, but things just are not the same.

This year it hit me hard; Dad and I had planned to go to a local restaurant for Thanksgiving dinner (we don't have other family near by - my son is in Boston, and I have 1 brother in Montana and 1 in Wisconsin), and then we received an invitation to go to a friend's home. All was good until Dad said that they had also invited us for Christmas and then I just lost it. I realized that the family traditions that I so lovingly honored with my mom, grandma, and great grandmother, are no more. I'm mourning the loss of visiting with my mom while we prepared Thanksgiving dinner; I'm cherishing the handwritten recipes from my grandmothers. But most of all, the loss of family members has finally reached my core and I am grieving in a way that I haven't before.

Rather than allow this to be an excuse to chuck it all and forget about my weight loss and fitness goals, it has filled me with a new resolve and determination. Maybe it is the realization of the short time we have here on earth; maybe it's simply the fact that I want to feel as good as I possibly can as I age. Whatever the cause, I find myself with renewed motivation and commitment to eating healthy and taking lots of walks with the pups. Who knows? I might even add a stretching routine to my day!

I know that many struggle at this time of year - I wish you all many blessings for a healthy and happy holiday season.
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    I feel your pain. Mom lives in Florida, while I'm here in Maine. Step Mom is in Wisconsin; Dad lives with the Saints....It is just us here. Not like when I was a kid and there were 32 of us at Gram and Gramp's house. Ah the memories. emoticon
    1313 days ago
    I appreciate all of you taking the time to read and comment on my post. It's true what they say - the community support here at Spark People is amazing!
    1315 days ago
    Loosing our parents is very tough. Remember her for how great see was.....
    1315 days ago
    I lost my mom this year. Not looking forward to the holidays.
    1316 days ago
    One year it was just my DH and me. That felt just to lonely. The next year I looked for an opportunity to serve others. We volunteered to serve at a dinner for singles and seniors at church. I was blessed to learn so many new ways to celebrate the holidays from those lovely people. It filled my heart. I was Thankful on Thanksgiving. I honored my family traditions at home and was thankful to have those, too.

    Hope your heart heals from your loss. I’m sure your mom would give you a hug and tell you it will all be okay.
    1316 days ago
    I'm sorry those beloved family traditions are not there for you anymore.
    I hope you will find joy in spending the holidays with your dad and friends.
    Good thinking about your weight loss and healthy lifestyle goals.
    1316 days ago
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    I agree with the other comment.....if only to bring a smile to your face!
    1316 days ago
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    You should bring one of your traditions to whom you are spending Thanksgiving with, I'm sure they'd appreciate it.
    1316 days ago
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