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Home for the Holidays

Thursday, November 09, 2017

My mom passed away 4 years ago on Thanksgiving day, and the holiday season has been a little tough since then. I've been trying to create new traditions, but things just are not the same.

This year it hit me hard; Dad and I had planned to go to a local restaurant for Thanksgiving dinner (we don't have other family near by - my son is in Boston, and I have 1 brother in Montana and 1 in Wisconsin), and then we received an invitation to go to a friend's home. All was good until Dad said that they had also invited us for Christmas and then I just lost it. I realized that the family traditions that I so lovingly honored with my mom, grandma, and great grandmother, are no more. I'm mourning the loss of visiting with my mom while we prepared Thanksgiving dinner; I'm cherishing the handwritten recipes from my grandmothers. But most of all, the loss of family members has finally reached my core and I am grieving in a way that I haven't before.

Rather than allow this to be an excuse to chuck it all and forget about my weight loss and fitness goals, it has filled me with a new resolve and determination. Maybe it is the realization of the short time we have here on earth; maybe it's simply the fact that I want to feel as good as I possibly can as I age. Whatever the cause, I find myself with renewed motivation and commitment to eating healthy and taking lots of walks with the pups. Who knows? I might even add a stretching routine to my day!

I know that many struggle at this time of year - I wish you all many blessings for a healthy and happy holiday season.
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  • no profile photo CD18090386
    I feel your pain. Mom lives in Florida, while I'm here in Maine. Step Mom is in Wisconsin; Dad lives with the Saints....It is just us here. Not like when I was a kid and there were 32 of us at Gram and Gramp's house. Ah the memories. emoticon
    1313 days ago
  • BERTADEE812
    I appreciate all of you taking the time to read and comment on my post. It's true what they say - the community support here at Spark People is amazing!
    1315 days ago
  • BIKE4HEALTH
    Loosing our parents is very tough. Remember her for how great see was.....
    1315 days ago
  • NAYPOOIE
    I lost my mom this year. Not looking forward to the holidays.
    1316 days ago
  • POSITIVEHOPE
    One year it was just my DH and me. That felt just to lonely. The next year I looked for an opportunity to serve others. We volunteered to serve at a dinner for singles and seniors at church. I was blessed to learn so many new ways to celebrate the holidays from those lovely people. It filled my heart. I was Thankful on Thanksgiving. I honored my family traditions at home and was thankful to have those, too.

    Hope your heart heals from your loss. I’m sure your mom would give you a hug and tell you it will all be okay.
    1316 days ago
  • KRISZTA11
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    I'm sorry those beloved family traditions are not there for you anymore.
    I hope you will find joy in spending the holidays with your dad and friends.
    Good thinking about your weight loss and healthy lifestyle goals.
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    1316 days ago
  • no profile photo CD17058885
    I agree with the other comment.....if only to bring a smile to your face!
    1316 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13574963
    You should bring one of your traditions to whom you are spending Thanksgiving with, I'm sure they'd appreciate it.
    1316 days ago
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