Death, Getting Healthier and Menopause

Friday, February 02, 2018

This past Saturday was a full day. A friend and I went to a “Gathering of Family and Friends” to honor the life of a friend gone too soon.
Rich passed away at the age of 55. Rich was one of the nicest people I have known. He always had a smile, could make anyone laugh and had a heart of gold. He also had a demon in his life. That demon was alcohol. Officially, alcohol was not the cause of death but I believe alcohol was at the root of it.

I had been going back and forth on whether or not to go to Rich’s gathering – don’t like going to them on my own. Saturday morning, I received a text from a friend asking if I planned to attend. I replied that I would go if she did. I am so glad we did. There was more laughing than tears – which is just how Rich would have wanted it. We ran into so many friends – some that I have not seen in 10+ years. We reminisced, laughed and hugged. It seemed as though time had stood still, and we were still those crazy kids of so many years ago. After the last goodbyes. I walked to my car, smiled and was extremely thankful for the friends who made growing up so much fun.
The gathering was a few miles from my hometown, so I decided to make it a visiting day. First, I stopped by my mom’s and visited with her for a couple hours. After the gathering, I went to see a couple who are like a second set of parents to me. On the way home, I met my sister at a friend’s house, where we had supper and visited until 10 p.m.

I woke Sunday feeling happy and peaceful. Life, overall, has been good to me. I grew up with the best friends a girl could ask for – many still in my life plus some pretty special ones that have come along later in life. I am close to my family, have a man who adores me (I kind of like him too), and two amazing sons who are doing well in life.
Mike and I continue to work on a healthier lifestyle. The best part for me is that he now does the majority of the cooking. He has amassed quite the collection of cast iron cookware – new and old. This has brought about a new benefit for me. He cleans the pots and pans! Mike has purchased a few pieces of exercise equipment and has been using them daily. He has cut back on coffee, is drinking more hot tea and keeps a thermos of water nearby at all times. All of this is paying off. His once high blood pressure is now under control – with no prescription medications needed! He has also lost 15 pounds so far. It is my turn to get back into a regular exercise routine.
This is a time when I need to ask advice from the ladies out there. I am post-menopausal, and do not want to go through hormone replacement therapy but rather find a more natural approach to reducing symptoms. I am thankfully past the hot flash stage (kept me from doing much of anything last summer) but still can be moody, am experiencing dryness (skin and other) and have trouble sleeping. A co-worker recommended Estruven. I tried it for a few months but the ingredients are not all natural. I have searched online and there are too many alternatives to choose from without spending days reading information and reviews. Any recommendations?
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    Ah, hot flashes... No advice - I'm just working (say: suffering :)) through them as they happen.

    Sounds like Mike is doing great! Have you joined him yet in an exercise routine?
    I totally fell out of mine when winter hit and have been "hibernating" for too long. It's always so tough to get back into it. Working on it!

    Happy Sunday!
    1206 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    So sorry for the loss of your friend. Glad you did go with a friend and had a nice time with other friends from your school days.
    I went through menopause with hot flashes without any medication. In fact back then my doctor said your to young to be going through it. Well, when the monthly visits stopped rather quickly I knew that I was going through menopause. Sorry I am not any help to you.
    1229 days ago
  • DEE107
    I went thru without anything ,, so sorry about your friend but Alchol does play havoc on our bodies
    1229 days ago
    Condolences on the loss of your friend, but kudos on keeping the joy even during the sorrow.

    Your idea to get back to working out with your husband really is the best possible treatment for the dryness (of all kinds), since exercise actually triggers the other glands to keep producing some hormones. It's not as much as prior to menopause, but it really makes a massive difference. Getting more fit also helps with getting better rest, although it seems fairly common to get / require less sleep each night than we needed when we were younger.

    There is a good selection of articles here on menopause that you might want to check out, including these two:
    e/fitness_articles.asp?id=438 and

    For myself, I had surgical menopause so it was quite abrupt (to say the least!) and honestly find a massive difference when I'm keeping up with regular exercise. I've had some periods of time where health issues dictated less movement and really, really noticed the difference in how I felt, how I slept, and how my skin and hair and even teeth felt!

    Strong thoughts to you
    1229 days ago
    I went through it without anything. I was pretty lucky though. The worst part was the hot flashes. I still get them at times but not as bad. Good Luck!
    1229 days ago
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