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A few thoughts about eating and 12-step programs.

Thursday, June 14, 2018

A few blog entries back I made reference to sobering up in AA and a few of you responded positively to that. Some even suggested that I write about how to apply the techniques of AA to weight-loss and the control of eating.

I have a few thoughts and observations.

There are several principles and techniques in AA that work well for me in managing my eating. "One day at a time" is a huge concept that helps me. It reminds me not to get ahead of myself. I don't have to worry TODAY about what will I do at my sister's wedding or what will I eat when we go out to the company dinner. Today, I am not at a wedding. I am not at a banquet. All I have is the present - right now. All I need to do is choose healthy food right now. Tonight, is another matter. Tomorrow is another matter. All I need to do is eat sensibly NOW.

I am not a religious person. That does not mean that I am blind to moral value in some religious teaching. Jesus said in what is generally called The Lord's Prayer, "Give us this day our daily bread." He did not ask for next month's bread, or next week's bread. He did not even ask for tomorrow's bread. Just today's. In another parable, Jesus told his disciples to be like lilies of the field that do not have care for tomorrow.

The way I apply this is to avoid getting caught up in future -- or past -- drama. All I have is right now. I just need to not drink right now. And for eating, I just need to eat sensibly right now. I will deal with the next meal when that time comes.

That is not to say that I should not make plans. TODAY's duty is to plan. It is not to obsess. I plan tomorrow's meal and then move on to something else. I don't need to worry about it and be caught up in what I did wrong or what I might face in some setting. Just plan reasonably and move on.

Next time, I'll write about how AA principles don't apply so well to my eating.

Let me remind you, I do not speak for AA and I certainly do not speak for Overeaters Anonymous (OA). I have never attended an OA meeting.
These remarks merely reflect my own "experience, strength, and hope" through almost 35 years of sobriety in AA.
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  • _CYNDY55_
    EXCELLENT and emoticon emoticon
    935 days ago
    Actually OA uses the AA hand book!

    we keep on moving forward!

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    935 days ago
    1142 days ago
    Congratulations on your sobriety and thank you for sharing your thoughts.
    They are powerful.
    1143 days ago
  • ALICIA363
    Thank you for sharing your experience, strength and hope.
    1143 days ago
    Such a great message and positive words of wisdom. I am so happy for you and pleased that the principles carry over into other areas of life. You will inspire many people, my friend.
    1143 days ago
    While I am happy for all those for whom the traditional 12-step programs help, I myself couldn't abide what I've always perceived as a requirement for spirituality/religious beliefs as I have been struggling in terms of spiritual issues for an obscenely long time now...…..I'm happy you're getting some benefits from it, that having been said......
    1143 days ago
    I enjoyed your blog.
    1143 days ago
    Hi Alex! Great to see another sober person on the purple team. I remember when my life was only filled with drinkers. I am sober now for a little over 7 years.

    Great reminder, one day at a time. I need to get out my materials and see if any of my rehab info would be helpful for eating. I totally traded my alcohol addiction for an increased food addiction.

    1143 days ago
    I'm a friend of Bill W. too! Thank you for sharing your experience, strength and hope. Great advice!

    1143 days ago
    I love the things you stated. So many people live in the past or worry about the future and waste their present time. I like to plan but not too far ahead. I know that plans often change. We have to be flexible.
    1144 days ago
    One Day at a Time is a great motto to live by for weight loss. It also teaches is to be patient.
    1144 days ago
    One day at a time is such a great way to approach so many things. When it comes to wrestling with our own brains and actions, (and only speaking from a food perspective) it truly can be moment by moment. And if I messed up this moment, take note, learn, and move on to the next moment. For exactly the reasons you listed. One day at a time, one meal at a time, one hour, one moment. Whatever increment we need to deal with right now, is the one we should. Thanks for sharing your insight.
    1144 days ago
  • SUSANH1230
    Thank you for sharing. Plan but don’t obsess...this has been such a huge obstacle on my journey. If an all or nothing approach to weight loss was the road to success, I’d have it licked! I get obsessed with trying to do the right thing. It occupies my time. It’s the first thing on my mind in the morning and last thing I think about at night. It’s crazy thinking.

    Today’s duty is to plan. It is not to obsess. I’m going to learn to live like that. Sounds so peaceful.

    1144 days ago
    Thanks, good advice!
    1144 days ago
    I think you're right though. It's definitely in the now. It's about making the right choice in the moment and not stressing about tomorrow
    1144 days ago
    thank you for your thoughts1
    1144 days ago
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