Saturday, June 06, 2020
I recently watched a SparkPeople video about weight loss saboteurs. The people in our lives that keep us from losing weight and getting healthier for one reason or another. I definitely don't think there's anyone in my life who intentionally does these things, but the closest people to me can be enablers when it comes to certain habits.
I've done some reflecting over the past few days. I decided that I really need to cut back on drinking alcohol. My husband and I have always been drinkers. We're not getting wasted and making bad decisions. We're just the kind of people that sit down for a glass of wine or a beer or two at the end of the day. We'll do a shot of whiskey if one of us has had a bad day. Of course, drinking your calories when you're on restricted diet is not a good idea. So recently I've been going for lower calorie options. I've switched from drinking Angry Orchard to White Claw or clear liquors with a zero calorie mixer. This has helped, but I've reached a point where I think I need to drop drinking all together, or at least limit it to one or two nights per week.
All of a sudden, I found myself scared to tell my husband that I'd made this decision! Like I said, we've always been drinkers. When we met five years ago, I was 27 years old and lived by myself. I spent a lot of my spare time at bars with friends. That naturally became a part of our dating and social life. (Honestly, I'm sure that's what has led to a lot of my weight gain.) What if he didn't respond well to this new goal? He doesn't have a weight problem, so he doesn't have to worry about the calories in his IPA. Am I getting old and boring?
After days of ruminating over this, I bit the bullet and told him we needed to talk about something. I explained to him how I was feeling about it and told him that I'm going to need to cut alcohol out of my diet except for our weekly date night and special holidays. And he responded with, "No problem." NO PROBLEM. I said, "Really?" He explained to me that his first priority is that I get healthy and start to feel better. Little things like our nightly round of drinks aren't as important as that.
I spent all that time worrying about something that wasn't even an issue. I have his full support. He wasn't sabotaging me, I was sabotaging myself. I think most of us are experts at self-sabotage. I'm definitely going to spend extra time asking myself whether or not something is ACTUALLY an issue, or if it's just me getting in my own way.