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Sabotage!

Saturday, June 06, 2020

Good morning!

I recently watched a SparkPeople video about weight loss saboteurs. The people in our lives that keep us from losing weight and getting healthier for one reason or another. I definitely don't think there's anyone in my life who intentionally does these things, but the closest people to me can be enablers when it comes to certain habits.

I've done some reflecting over the past few days. I decided that I really need to cut back on drinking alcohol. My husband and I have always been drinkers. We're not getting wasted and making bad decisions. We're just the kind of people that sit down for a glass of wine or a beer or two at the end of the day. We'll do a shot of whiskey if one of us has had a bad day. Of course, drinking your calories when you're on restricted diet is not a good idea. So recently I've been going for lower calorie options. I've switched from drinking Angry Orchard to White Claw or clear liquors with a zero calorie mixer. This has helped, but I've reached a point where I think I need to drop drinking all together, or at least limit it to one or two nights per week.

All of a sudden, I found myself scared to tell my husband that I'd made this decision! Like I said, we've always been drinkers. When we met five years ago, I was 27 years old and lived by myself. I spent a lot of my spare time at bars with friends. That naturally became a part of our dating and social life. (Honestly, I'm sure that's what has led to a lot of my weight gain.) What if he didn't respond well to this new goal? He doesn't have a weight problem, so he doesn't have to worry about the calories in his IPA. Am I getting old and boring?

After days of ruminating over this, I bit the bullet and told him we needed to talk about something. I explained to him how I was feeling about it and told him that I'm going to need to cut alcohol out of my diet except for our weekly date night and special holidays. And he responded with, "No problem." NO PROBLEM. I said, "Really?" He explained to me that his first priority is that I get healthy and start to feel better. Little things like our nightly round of drinks aren't as important as that.

I spent all that time worrying about something that wasn't even an issue. I have his full support. He wasn't sabotaging me, I was sabotaging myself. I think most of us are experts at self-sabotage. I'm definitely going to spend extra time asking myself whether or not something is ACTUALLY an issue, or if it's just me getting in my own way.
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  • BILLIEK17
    I'm pretty sure that alcohol is a huge contributor of my weight gain as well. It's tough to give up when it has been a regular part of your life for a lot of years. I'm glad your husband supports your efforts. Good luck with making the change. I struggle with giving it up so maybe you'll inspire me!
    419 days ago
  • OHMEMEME
    Woohoo! To better thinking! This weightloss and healthier lifestyle is mostly in our heads! You may like the teams of 100 Days of Weight Loss (100 DWL) and Dr. Judith Beck’s Think Like a Thin Person.

    IMHO Remember that you are aiming for weightloss but developing new habits that are sustainable is the goal. This is tough and takes effort. Be patient and kind to yourself. Keep working on figuring out what works in the present day.

    Best wishes and keep Sparking!
    419 days ago
  • 7STIGGYMT
    Kudos to your husband for taking a supportive role. That will help you a lot!
    420 days ago
  • KIMCAR08
    I am so glad that you have somebody that is supportive to your health and well-being. All that worrying and you really didn't need to worry. I think we all worry a little bit too much sometimes about things. Way to go in being open with your husband.
    420 days ago
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